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Anxiety in a relationship..help!!!

Alrighty, so im 19 and I have a wonderful boyfriend who I have been dating for 8 months now (well itll be 8 months on monday) anyways, I’ve always been a little shy,sepcially when it comes to relationships,I have no idea why. Im not shy around my boyfriend or his family,but I am when it comes to his friends. Like,everytime hes asked me to go hangout with him,whether it be going to his church,or going somewhere with a couple of his friends,I always seem to make up an excuse as to why I cant go,or I just wont answer the phone. yeah, I know it seems like a not-nice-word-thing to do but,I dont know what it is. and ok,first of all,im 100% against ANYONE who smokes,drinks,does drugs and his best friend does all that so I dont wanna be around him or his girlfriend ya know? I just get anxious and nervous when im around new people.

it kinda sux cause I dont wanna jepardize our relationship so I guess I just need help on how to overcome this “shyness” or whatever.

and what are some good ways I could show him that I still love him? I mean I know the obvious answer would be to just go hangout with him and get over it,which I will.

I guess I just need a second opinion.

well thanks for the advice guys(:

xoxox kayla

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Answer #1

Have you ever just explained why you have a problem with his best friend?

Answer #2

I think you are making to right choice by not wanting to be around those people. I mean, my boyfriend is friends with people who drink, etc but he has his own values and I trust him. So when we hang out with these people we know not to do anything with them that would endanger us. But my concern is that you are very nervous around these people. Sometimes it is best to trust your gut. They may be really really bad people. I mean, there are a lot of people who drink and smoke but when you mix that with a person who is just downright bad…I can see why you would be worried. If I were you, I would just tell you boyfriend that you do not want to hang out with these people. You have a bad feeling about them and he is going to have to deal with your choice. If he loves you, he will be okay with this.

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