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15-year old daughter has no respect for me

My daughter has been so belligerent lately. I am a single mom. I take her everywhere. She doesn’t want for anything. She got mad at me the other day because I wouldn’t let her buy a $70 skirt. She called me a dumbass so I told her shopping was over. She called me b(( today and I shut down her cell phone. She never helps me around the house. She has terrible anger. She has terrible self esteem which I try to help her with. Started taking her to meetings because she was concerned about her weight but she doesn’t want to help herself. I am at my wit’s end. What do I do. She gets great grades. She is not doing drugs, etc… It is just that she doesn’t respect me and never helps me. I work full time and have my hands full. She makes fun of my job like it is too low for her, etc. I am just tired of it. What can I do?

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Answer #1

You need to show her what it would be like if her mom really was a b*. Don’t do anything for her. Don’t be nice, don’t cook her meals (of course supply food, just dont prepare it), don’t give her rides, don’t let her go out with friends. You need to make her appreciate you. If you keep giving her what she wants shell never learn what she is doing wrong. No one should ever treat their parent, especially when it seems like you’re giving her your all. Take her all the way down to nothing (no tv, computer, phone, friends) and she’ll need to earn these things back with good behavior. Be tough! Sometimes parents think the best thing to do is give their children what they want at the time and it hurts them in the long run. Good luck!!

Answer #2

I’d say you didn’t spank her enough as a kid. =) I’m 15, and even I know 70$ is too much for ANY article of clothing. I think she needs to see what life is like without out you, try letting her fend for herself, unless she can cook, do her own laundry, clean, and sew, she’ll realize she needs you. As for her anger, pushing bags are good. Or send her to anger managment.

Answer #3

trust me I aint no mum but I am a teen lol .. im 16.. and I not long ago pushed my luck to far I nearly lost my hole family in my eye but most of my anger was cz I felt so unwanted .. but I realised how much I was wanted when I nearly lost em all …

I really think you need to sit her down and tell her the pain you feel tell her how much you love her and how much your hurt try not to argue .. and if you feel like cryin girl I would bloody well do it cz thts wt killed me when I herd my mum cryin cz I told her I hated her .. that broke me sirously …

I h8 myself 4 wt I put my mum frew.. and I wudnt want you to go frew the same your daughter dus love you she just needs a hit of reality ..

good luck .x

Answer #4

shes 15… I understand where she is coming from. im 15 too and my parents say im too confrontational. shell grow out of it. shes 15. thats the age kids loose respect / they gain it again later. itss life live with it

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