What are your opinions on your parent answering your phone?

I think its invasion of privacy, but my dad answer’s my phone sometimes, its really annoying. He’s done it in the past, and i tried to explain to him that its upsetting, and he just said if its in his house, he’s guna answer it, i guess i cant really get mad, cause he pay’s my phone bill. But its still a bit much, and he did it again last sunday, and i guess him and the person that was trying to reach me got into a little argument, he said the person was rude, and it was in important call, it was just friend, but it was a important call, Does anybody eleses parents do this? and i no im only 15, so some ppl may say, oh he could that

Answer #1

If he pays the bill, and the line is in his name, then he has every right to. I can see where it would be annoying, but you just kind of have to calk it up to being a teenager. Parents are going to annoy you. They are going to do many things that will make you feel as though they are invading your privacy. They just want to keep an eye on you while you are in their care, and rightfully so. You’ll have the rest of your life for privacy!

Answer #2

i agree but they also call because sometimes they want to know your safe because they care it is annyoing but they pay for the bill and they dont have to so just be happy you have a phone(:

Answer #3

I agree with your Dad on this one, he pays the bill, (he probably brought you the phone too, right?), you live in his house, he is responsible for you, so yeah I think he’s allowed to answer your phone. It’s not like it’s actually a big deal, anyone who calls you will just be your friends/girlfriend etc. I mean, if you were a top secret FBI agent tracking down the worlds hardest criminals for million dollar bounty, then sure, you can be pissed when somebody answers your phone. But right now your a teenager just talking to friends. It’s not like when your dad answers the phone, your friend will blurt out your biggest secrets, they’ll just say Hi can I please speak with (you)? …You get what I’m trying to say? Your dad is just looking out for you, and yeah it can be annoying I guess, but he’s not doing any real harm. Gee, some kids aren’t even allowed phones or internet, and can’t stay out past 4pm!!

Answer #4

If your parents pay the bill, I don’t think it’s that huge of an issue. The phone line may be for you, but it isn’t really yours and your dad has every right to pick it up sometimes. Unless your dad is listening in on your calls, I don’t think there’s much of a privacy invasion by him saying ‘Hello?’.

If it’s your phone, you pay for the bill and all.. then maybe I can see being upset. I have a cellphone, and I don’t really want anyone else touching it. I do pay the bill for it, however, so I believe I have every right to say ‘no’.

Answer #5

No my dad is just sneaky about it, he dosent answer it infront of me, Like in the pass ive told him to hold my phone for like during a swim meet, or im really careless with my phone, and ill leave on a table or just around the house, and he will pick it up, and he just dosent say hello, he got into arguement with one of friends the other day, i just find it totally odd, none of friends parents do it to them, he just dosent trust me, there no reason why he needs to do this, he dosent trust me bcuz of something that happend along time ago, even no he said thats not the reason.

Answer #6

And i dnt think it matters if he pay’s my bill, i mean he kinda has to, Im living with him and he’s my dad, and im too young to get a job so he kinda has too pay it, inless, he wants me to be phoneless, he pays everybody in my household phone bill, he never complains about it either. maybe he likes being in control over us

Answer #7

He doesn’t have to pay your bill … you can do just fine without a phone.

Answer #8

I don’t think your father should be answering your phone unless you’ve asked him to get it because you’re busy. It seems nosy and controlling, somehow. What if you don’t want to talk to the person who’s calling you, and your dad hands you the phone? A few people suggest it’s his way of looking out for you. How is that looking out for you? He would have to interrogate each caller or somehow investigate everyone who’s phoning you? If you were 11 or 12, yes, I can definitely see why he would. But you’re almost an adult.

Answer #9

i totally agree!! Im not 12 anymore, he even goes threw my backpack sometimes, its sooo annoying,.

Answer #10

If you don’t think it matters that he pays the bill, then tell him that. Once he stops paying it, you will have nothing to worry about because you won’t have a working cell phone for him to answer. You may not mean to, but you’re coming across as ungrateful.

Answer #11

Unfortunately there is nothing you can really do about it. You admit to doing something leading to losing his trust. It looks like you have to wait this one out and just be thankful that you have a cell phone. Sure, it sucks, but just be glad that he still allows you to have a phone and friends.

Answer #12

I understand where you’re coming from, I’d get annoyed if my mum answered my phone when the call was meant for me, but maybe he feels he should answer it and take a message or something for you. Maybe you should keep your phone on you all the time so you don’t miss calls and your dad doesn’t have to answer it for you?

Answer #13

I dnt mean to, im just sayin the truth, but im very grateful for everything, my dad gets me. and he wont stop paying it, bcuz he needs a way to keep tabs on me, if i dnt have a phone he wont be able to call me, and kno what im doing

Answer #14

Well I decided not to read all the previous answeres and just say that the man of the house is responsible for EVERYTHING that happens there. Now please don’t get me wrong, the lady of the house and anyone else living there have thier responsibilities too. But someone has to take charge. Everyone else can always have an excuse for why they didn’t look after something but society and the law does not cut the man any slack. The man of the house can make no exuse for not taking care of his responsibilities, because if he doesn’t, he’s not a man acorrding to the world.

Answer #15

I think they should mind their own bees wax unless they think their kid is on dr*gs or doing something illegal. my father NEVER picks up my phone I got my first phone when I was 12 & he never even asked who I was talking to unless he felt I was hiding something … He also NEVER goes into my room without permission I mean now as a teenager when I was a little girl he was in and out of that room lol …

Answer #16

And yet you don’t know the difference between threw and through

Answer #17

Who cares? Unless you’re hiding something, what difference does it make? Any friend of yours stupid enough to get into an argument with a parent deserves to be told off. My mother answers my phone all the time. My friends have enough respect to know that they need to be polite to her.

Answer #18

I personally believe that there should be an age limit along with maturity thats shown by the child as th when the parent should not answer their child phone. You as the parent MUST feel a level of trust with your child and KNOW the type of crowd your child is with, who calls them, and what they are up to, as well as set limits as to what time of the night their phone SHOULD NOT BE RINGING!

Answer #19

Not to troll on Colleen and the whole you can do just fine without one, but now adays you sort of need a cell phone, no you don’t need a fancy OMG it is a mini pocket computer but I have experienced not having a cell phone and you tend to get strained. Like at the airport there was only 3 pay phones on each corner of the airport. The train station has none what so ever. So I disagree with the you will be fine without it but I also disagree with Kane’s point of view. When my parents were around they would take out money from my allowance cause phones were a luxury at that time, there were still pay phones and what not so for me to have one was a big deal. However my little brothers have one and every I go online and I check who they are talking to how long they do so and where these people are. It is for their safety. They know I do it, they know if it was not this way they will not have a phone and they just got use to it. Which is what I think you should do as well.

Answer #20

it doesnt matter what age you are as long as they still live in there house they want you safe because they care you shouldnt be getting mad over a phone call thats dumb and its very immature trust me think about it one day if you have a kid you will want them safe right? of course they are you child so if you dont know where they are or if they are safe you will call them and thats just how your parents are and you can think as much as you want oh they dont care about me they just want to annoy me but what about for the fact they kept you they could of just abondoned you or put you up for adoption also you can think you wont be like that as a adult and your going to be sooooooo nice to your kid and just let them have a phone and never call them or bother them but thats not true people change when they mature

Answer #21

Sorry Stasha … I don’t agree. A cellphone is a luxury, not a necessity. I keep hearing the argument that a cellphone is for safety, but how, exactly, does it keep you safe? It won’t keep you from being kidnapped or assaulted … as a matter of fact, many teens are assaulted because someone wants to steal their phone and sell it. It won’t prevent you from getting accidentally shot by a rogue bullet, it won’t prevent you from getting r@ped. Any would-be mugger these days knows that most people carry a phone, and makes sure it’s the first thing they take from you. Do you really think that things are worse these days than when your parents were young? These days, security is on high alert everywhere you turn … there is safety in numbers, so making sure you’re out in public can keep you safe, as opposed to walking home through dark alleys at 2am. We were taught to hold our house keys between our fingers so that if we were attacked, we could use them as a weapon (aim for the eyes, we were told). There’s not more danger these days then there was when we were young … there’s just more awareness of it, thanks to the internet. Phones don’t keep people safe … common sense keeps people safe.

Answer #22

Omfg i no the difference between through and threw , threw is like i threw it on the ground, idk why i used that, but i did oh well whats the big deal, this whole is just blowin up bigger then what it needs to be, im mature ok, soo whatever, thats why i hate askin anything, ppl always gotta blow things up GOSH!!! its over ok

Answer #23

So true. You know depending on where you are, many 911 systems can’t pinpoint exactly where a cell phone call is coming from but rather only the location of the tower the call is being transmitted from. On a land line phone, the authorities know instantly where you are, but on a cell phone, you have to be able to tell them your exact location in many cases. In any dangerous situation, eveyrthing usually happens very quickly and the time you have to react and take action is short.

Answer #24

Ehh Its a invasion of privacy, i just a crazy old man, thats overprotective, this is not normal, for parents to do this, its not the point if there polite or whatever, he should just trust me

Answer #25

Where were you when he answered it? Bcuz if you just left it at home, ON, an you left, what was he supposed 2 do? Most parents aren’t tech savvy enough to find the “shut up you stupid annoying phone” button (aka off). Don’t get me wrong, I hate when my parents get mine, but still- if you leave it out in the open, it’s sort of up for grabs for whoever answers it first.

Answer #26

Seriously, people who have nothing to hide, don’t get all upset about it. You’re probably encouraging the continuation of this behavior because you continue to get upset by it. I know children think that their parents entire worlds revolve around them, but honestly, your dad has better things to do than spy on you. Stop giving him reasons to think you’re doing something wrong, he’ll get bored and stop checking up on you. And it is absolutely the point whether your friends are polite. The sort of people are you hanging around with reflects on you. I don’t blame your dad for being worried. And I know it’s difficult, but try to imagine that your father has a point of view. Really, he’s a person too and his mission in life is not to make you miserable.

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