Why do I feel like my boyfriend belongs with his ex?

honestly i don’t think anything is wrong with you, and i think their is a part of everyone who compare themselves to their partners exes. the same thing happened with me and my bf he was dating this girl for about a year and half and then some crap went down and it just ended and he never got closure. it wasn’t like he wanted to be with her but he just wanted that closure. i just talked him through it even though it was annoying and he eventually just stopped talking about the situation. that was almost 4 years ago and now its like he and i never had exes or anything since we’ve been together so long.

pretty much ya just got to trust him, and have self confidence in yourself your a very pretty girl=)

Nothing is wrong with you, I totally get how you feel and I can relate. My current bf at this moment has dated countless of girls where as me, I’ve only been serious with 2 previous from him. Whenever I see any of his ex’s it bugs me cause I’d always wonder, why me? Especially with this one girl, Chelsea. You’re job is simple hun, you just have to trust and believe it’s over with him and his ex and just tell yourself you’re with him now :) If you truly love him and see him as a keeper, be happy that he’s with you! Make the best of what you’ve got and if he ever talks of Kylie, just smile and tell him you’re happy he has good memories of her and you wish to make many good memories with him, tell him constantly that you love him and you don’t wanna break his heart the way Kylie did. Leave it at that… don’t go over bored with going too deep about the past.

As for facebook, let it be, my bf has all his exs as friends some on good terms and some on not so good. Guys don’t like being controlled and having you tell them what to do, instead they like to hear and know how you feel towards their actions. In other words, use “I” messages. I tell my bf “I know you love me the most out of all the girls you’ve been with right? Like that’s why I’m the one in your arms right now?” - say something like that instead of “You need to delete her, it’s over between you two”, it sets off a different vibe. Even though my bf has all his exs of facebook and they do talk at times, I know he has me at heart and doesn’t think of going back with them - TRUST is key!

thank you

thank you.. this really helped:)

Well dear your 14 years old and shouldn’t worry about relationships he probably doesn’t mean too hurt you by talking about his ex and sometimes it just happens like when i was with my ex he was talking about his ex too me but it didn’t bover me because i knew he was with me now and he is talking about the past you shouldn’t worry your 14 years old and got your whole life ahead of you if your relationship doesnt work out im very sorry but either way it can be for the best because relationships can get in the way of your future like as soon as you go to college you haven’t got time for a boyfriend but if it does then thats a good thing too just remember though you will meet someone when your older i mean its not gonna happen straight away xx

ohhh yes and your a stunning girl so dont worrie about anything or lads there really immature at that age

Well . . . facebook isn’t really something to get all worked up about. And three years is a long time to spend with someone. He probably doesn’t bring her up to hurt you, but simply because she was so much a part of his life before its hard to talk about the old times and not mention her when she was such an involved part of them.

Don’t be insecure. Remember healing takes time and if he mentions her in passing in a conversation just not and smile and don’t get all touchy about it. And if they broke up obviously there is something between them that just doesn’t fit. You should appreciate that he is with you and not worry about her. Give your time and energy to who he is now, not who you think he was or should be with someone else.