would this be considered emotional abuse?

Agreed that this approach is very hurtful and ultimately unproductive.

People tend to look at messiness as a character flaw. The truth is that there are some people who have to live in a neat orderly environment and there are people who are naturally oblivious to it.

In the military some recruits are sometimes discharged for “unable to adapt to military life.” There are people who simply can’t exist in the neat orderly military way; in fact they may seem blind to messes that are obvious to everyone else. As hard as they try they are simply unable to learn to be neat and orderly.

Your mom is probably frustrated and near her wit’s end but she has to stop blaming herself for your sister’s messiness.

I don’t know if she was serious or not. she threatened me with military school but never actually sent me there. mostly because I was a good kid and other people in our family told her knock it off, that she was being overreactive. my stepdad isn’t home yet and doesn’t know my mom threatened this. but he was all for sending me to military school. he’s basically all for whatever she says. they’ve taken away phone priveleges before, but my mom’s more into cruel and unusual punishment. seriously, last time my sister’s room was a mess, she bought her horrible clothes and told her she had to wear those for the next few days, because “she didn’t want to take care of the nice clothes she was given.”

Well im 15 & sometimes I throw fits & my mom cleans my room & gives me this huge lecture but she has never sent me away.

I think you mom is taking this way to far. Where does she want to send her away to? Do you think that she will actually do it? What does your dad think about this?

I would talk to your dad your mom & your sister all together. If she doesnt clean her room when asked take away something of hers like no phone/computer ETC..

Sending her away will just make her angry towards your mom so that wont help at all.