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My mom is no longer letting me hang out with me best friend! Lemme give you a little history on the friends issue… When we moved to where I live currently, I was in the second grade. Since we’ve moved here, I’ve been the outcast girl from all the girls. I’ve had hundreds of friends that back stabbed me. So I wasn’t ever really sure who I could trust. I had my first best friend, her name was Chelsea. She befriended me when no one else did. We were best friends since 2nd grade up until 9th grade. As we got older, we started changing. I got homeschooled and Chelsea…had every guy waiting on her left and right to put it nicely. My mother said she was a slut but she wasn’t!!! I know her and I know she isn’t one! But my mother cut her out of my life. Then it started like a whirlpool of my mother cutting out my friends one by one. My friend Roxanne, I can no longer hang out with her because my mom thinks she’s a bad influence. My friend Lexy, I can’t hang out with her because she thinks she’s a bad influence. I can’t hang out with Crystal because she’s a bad inffluence, same with Selene, Katie, Paola, Sara, Michelle, Andrea, Sierra AND NOW?!?! MY BEST FRIEND OF 7 YEARS!!! Why? Because she’s an athiest and bi-sexual and my mom doesn’t think she’s a good influence on me either!!! These girls are not bad girls though! I stay away from bad girls who smoke do drugs have sex with a million guys, etc. I know who and who not to hang out with. My mom AND dad are judging them without even making an attempt to get to know them. I’ve had those girls spend the night at my house before and vice versa and my parents are only polite when they’re in the room or something. My mom thinks that all the bad choices I’ve made were because of them. WHICH IS NOT TRUE! She thinks Im going to be a follower, but I know im not. I make my own decisions and when a friend and I disagree, we just agree to disagree. It really feels like Kassie is the only one who understands where I come from on a certain point of view and she gives the best advice and I can’t believe after 7 years, we’ve grown so close that my mom is doing this to me. I confronted my mom, calmly, about it and she yelled at me. SHe said I didn’t understand and that all she’s trying to do is do what’s best for me. And if that means I can’t hang out with these people than too bad. I know she’s doing what she thinks is right for me. And I respect my mom 100% but I just don’t understand. These people are like what keeps me going and keeps me happy. With them I’m myself. I can’t help but feel that I let down my parents because I don’t think they were expecting me to be the way I am. Im not a bad kid or anything like that. I DONT drink, do drugs etc. But it’s like every time I do something that I think is right, or I have my own reasons for, ‘It’s completely wrong and you need to change your way of thinking’ I don’t know what to do…

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Answer #1

well your mom should understand that you don’t have to change your thinking. each person thinks differently, you don’t have to think like your mom nor your dad. a child will eventually grow up and have their own beliefs, their own personality, their own thinking… PLUS, us teenagers, we’re still changing, me thinking this and thinking that “now”, doesn’t mean I’m gonna think that forever unless I’m like… completely sure this is what it is! you’re not supposed to think like your mom, nor your dad.. they’re not supposed to stop you from making mistakes, because if we don’t make mistakes, how do we learn?? you should sit with your mom, tell her it’s your turn to talk this time, tell her to listen to you, and make her promise that she doesn’t yell at you no matter how angry she gets.. tell her that your goal is : make her understand, and see your way of thinking… it might not work out the first time, but she WILL give it a thought. she “should”. she can’t control that once you leave the house… how’s she gonna deal with that?? tell her you know what’s right and what’s wrong, tell her you’re old enough to know how to choose your friends… though no matter WHAT you say and WHAT you think, do NOT lose your temper, keep calm, make her believe you, try your best if you really really don’t wanna lose your bestfriend.. I’ve been through that, and still going through more and “worse” but I’m fighting and finding my way through and it’s (thank god) working out so far. if you need any help fun mail me or something :D I hope I didnt blabber too much, and I really hope I helped :)

Answer #2

your too frank with them…maybe if you keep a little bit stuf to yourself about your friends your parents might not disagree with your choice of friends… I had the same problem but I finally decided to keep most info to myself… I don’t know if I helped you but best of luck with your parents

Answer #3

well first off how does she know. .. ? second why would you keep telling her if you know she constantly wont allow them. . .? I mean I totally respect you on how you respect them but at one point you have to not tell them and deal with it all by yourself and at one point you’ll know if there right or wrong for you. . .!

Answer #4

Meh mom is like that 2 well what I would do is not listen to her or be friends with her wit out meh mom knowing but if that dosen’t work then you should try to make friends with people who your mom likes hope I helped

Answer #5

How come your mom has so much personal information on all your girlfriends? Do they tell her about themselves…do you tell your mom about them?

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