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Why - Is it so wrong to want another baby so soon?

Is it wrong to want another baby so soon after my first son died? Joshua died on the 15th October 2009. I miss him so much and there is a hole in my heart that nobody will ever fill. But all I can think about is having another baby. Joshua was only 15 weeks old when he passed away and I miss him so much. I hurt everyday and eventhough I know another baby will not replace him nor do I want it to; a part of me thinks maybe it will help numb the pain. Does this make me selfish? I am still with Joshua’s father and he too says he wants another child. I have already had a miscarrige since I gave birth to my son but I cannot control the feelings I have. I would do anything to feel needed again. I really want another baby. What do you all think? Xx

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Answer #1

I’m SO sorry :( I really hope that you start to feel better soon, hun.

my boyfriend’s father, who’s actually passed away, was born exactly 9 months after his brother had died. it’s normal to feel the way you do, and I thought it might help to know that you’re not the only one :)

Answer #2

Oh honey…I am so sorry for your loss. Of course there’s a hole in your heart. Losing a child is the biggest loss there is. There is nothing at all selfish about wanting another child…and what a blessing that your man feels the same way.

Good luck on a speedy conception.

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Answer #3

that is not selfish at all. you want to be able to hold a baby close to you again. you want to be able to have the motherly feeling again. and maybe having another baby will ease some but not all of the pain. I think it would be nice for you and him to try for another one. good luck and so sorry to hear about joshua. take care.

Answer #4

It’s not wrong at all. Of course you want another child to fill the hole the first one made. I mean, of course this next child won’t replace him–no child ever will, but the next child can help you ease some of the pain. I hope things work out well, and you have beautiful and healthy children. ^^

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