Funadvice Logo
+ List
More Sex Questions

Why does my vagina hurt during and after intercourse?

Sometimes it feels like my husband is stabbing my insides. Most of the time, sex hurts the first 5 minutes and when we get going it is fine. However, after we are finished my vagina is sore and swollen, sometimes I even experience throbbing down there and because of this I have to wait 2-3 days to have sex again because my vagina is too sensitive. My husband has a big penis and I am petite. We do not always have rough sex for this reason, and I try to stay lubricated with Astroglide. This problem has been ongoing and is affecting our relationship because he is still a young man. I want to have sex more often to keep a healthy relationship but it hurts. I have been to the gynecologist and they said everything looked fine and to stay lubricated, that doesn’t tell me what the problem may be. If my husband is to big for me what can we do because I feel alone when he doesn’t understand.

Become an Expert →
Answer #1

Try different sex positions. Like woman on top. That should make him easier to accommodate and then you’ll be able to control how deep he goes.

Also have you considered getting checked out by a doctor? The swelling after sex could be an indication that you are allergic to his sperm (uncommon but it happens). Also use some extra lubrication.

Answer #2

My partner is also petite and we have some of the same problems at first but lots of foreplay and I have learned not to go so deep so as not to hurt her. I’m sure if you explain to your husband rather than avoid sex. If he loves you, he will not want to hurt you so he can learn to be more gentle. Also he might like hand jobs and BJ’s to take pressure off your vagina till it heals up well. Try to work this out as you seem to want to please him but you do not need to hurt. Joe

Answer #3

Try foreplay first to warm yourself up then jump into sex! You have to walk before you run!

More Like This
Advisor

Sex

Sex education, Intimacy, Relationship advice