Why does my mom blame every single family problem we have on me?

I am a 15 year old girl. I have depression just so you;d know and my mom is like 40 something and she blames every one of our family problems on me. Like my dad is terminally ill and could die any time now and she blames his illness on me and that I am putting more stress on him and going to kill him. Also that she is going to tell everyone at his funeral that I killed him by adding stress which I don’t she does. I have lots of stress in my life right now school, my dad might die, my annoying 8 year old sister and I know everyone thinks there little sisters are annoying but mine gets everything she wants, when she gets mad and hits on me or talk reallly bad to my mom, she never gets in trouble my mom just yells you know she wouldnt be so bad if it weren’t for you. She never punishes her she punishes me for what my sister does wrong. She makes me feel worthless and she cant go one day without yelling at me or she’ll go crazy which id dumb because even if I am as god as ever she has to yell at me for something just to get to me. She calls me the worst names ever and gets in physical fights with me.I can’t stand her anymore. When I try to get away from her and tell her I don;t want to fight and go to my room or somthing she just follows me and just keeps aging it on. When I was told to tell her that I don;t want to fight and go to my room she does this so how do I get away from her when she does that. PLEASE HELP ME I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO.

Answer #1

I hate my mother this is what I’ve been going through since birth I dont think its fair I have no father (I never met him) and my mother rubs it in I fell I wanna kill her or myself if it continues I think I might comite suiside she treats everyone better than me EVEN complete strangers I hate her she never lets me be a kid I wish I could die!!!

Answer #2

Nobody should /ever/ be treated this way. I have no idea why you are taking the side of an obviously unstable woman that blames all of her problems on an innocent girl that is stressed enough already.

You really have to seek help, because you can’t go through this alone,

Answer #3

Menopause. And menopause does not explain this behavior. I have no idea why she’s doing what she’s doing. No one can make you feel anything without your permission. You’re choosing to believe the things she says. Stop believing her. They’re not true. Whatever her issues are, they are her issues.

Answer #4

Let’s just say that sounds a lot like what I’m going through right now.

I guess you could try to run out of home for a little while. That’s how I keep myself from going insane. I’m not saying go live somewhere else - just maybe take a few hours or half a day outside the house and away from your family, so that at least there’s no stress for a while.

Answer #5

“never confront family insidents with schhol cousilers ever they never help you hope this helps”

Actually, external (not school) counsellors are good. And know who your best friends are and talk to them. Make sure you REALLY trust them tho.

Answer #6

thanks you guys this helps a lot cause I never had any help so this really helps lol

Answer #7

oh and just so you know this has been going on for years so I dont think its minopose

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