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Why do moms take their anger out on me when her b-friend did it?

Well when my moms boyfriend makes her mad she comes home and takes all her anger out on me for exsample her boyfriend said somthing to upset her and she came home and yelled at me for at least for a week. I hate when he makes her mad cause I feel (somtimes ) she dont care about me.

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Answer #1

She is probably just stressed out, and wants her relationship to work with her boyfriend, so when he upsets her she does feel upset and fustrated. You need to be there for her as well. You know its not easy being a parent. She is just stressed out, try to help her more around the house, and don’t argue back, because that just fuels it. Just say sorry, or do what she wants you to do so that she doesn’t have a reason to yell at you.

Look on the bright side, at least you have a Mum. Just think of all of the people in Haiti at the moment, who have lost their whole families, homes, jobs, and everything they have ever worked for. Things aren’t so bad if you think about it.

:) Have a niccce day :)

Answer #2

Realize that grown ups aren’t perfect and do not always act grown up.

I wold say that you need to wait till there is a time when she is not upset or angry and sit down to talk with her about it. Explain to her that you love her and you understand that she gets upset but tell her that when the boyfriend makes her upset and then she comes home angry it hurts you and makes you wonder if she really cares or not. It’s important to have this talk when things are calm. Trying to be reasonable and have a serious discussion when a person is distraught will never work. It will just put them on the defensive.

Another approach…when she comes home angry or upset…hug her and tell her you love her. Parents never get tired of hearing that, even when they are angry.

I never let my son go out the door without telling him that I love him. This is a perilous world we live in and if something tragic were to happen I want him to know that my last words to him were words of love. Even when he makes me angry or frustrated and I’m not liking him all that much I will still say: “I’m still angry (or upset or whatever) but I love you no matter what.”

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