Why do fathers most of the time favor their sons?

I’m not jealous, just wondering I see it a whole lot it even happens to me sometimes. I’m the only daughter of his out of three sons and well he always favors one of my brothers. What’s the deal with that? This horrible feeling always comes to me like angry seas colliding. He is always rewarding him and honestly my bro is just so douchey irresponsible and my father still falls in his dirty tramps of the I’m a young adult. CAN someone please give me advice on how to deal with this easily?

Answer #1

How to accept things for what they are? It’s a tough one. Because then you have to realize that you have no control over the situation. There’s nothing you can do to change your father and his actions. Which is difficult. Not only accepting that your father has his flaws like all people, but also that you are powerless to control other people. You’re also focusing on what you dont have. What do you have? Do you have the love of other people? Does your father love you, despite his favoritism? You can either obsess about how it isnt fair that you arent getting what you should be getting. Or you can accept the situation for what it is. Grieve the loss (because it is a loss), and when you reach the acceptance part of the grieving process, try to have a healthier relationship with your family, one without anger and resentment. Because obviously those havent helped, it hasnt changed anything, and you’re the only one getting hurt. But listen, dont get stuck in the anger stage. You cant live there forever. And the obvious question is HOW. And I dont know. You have to find your own how and your own path to forgiveness and acceptance. But the first step the desire to reach that. Dont be surprised if you get to that stage and things do get better. Sometimes we put up walls in reaction to other peoples actions. And then even when those people make gestures, we dont see them. But in this situation, you’re going to have to take the first step.

Answer #2

Fathers favor the boy, as it dates back to farming days where the boy would learn to farm and eventually take over the family farm when the father grew old. Same these days with businesses. Its always the eldest boy that takes over the family business. Women would marry off into another family, so the father didn’t need to know her well, also unfortunately back in the olden days women were thought of as stupid and not as smart as men.

In your case, it may be gender orientated. Your father feels closer to the boys because they are all male. He may not know how to talk to you. Maybe you could go to the movies together or out to coffee. You could start the bonding instead of waiting for him to start it. Lets face it; men don’t get hints as easily as women haha.

Answer #3

its every expecting fathers dream to have a boy. they share a special bond that is different from that with a daughter. he can do everything with his son that his father did with him. fishing hunting sports talking about girls…just a lot of stuff that a daughter more than likely wouldnt be intrested in. im sure your father doesnt mean to play favorites. did he have any sisters growing up?? was his mother around?? chances are he just has no idea how to talk to you or what you to can do together to bond. think of something you and your father would both enjoy doing together and do it, just the two of you. help him understand how you feel and im sure he will let you in on what hes thinking.

good luck!!

Answer #4

well in ancient times fathers favored sons not daughter so I figured it stayed like that

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