why cant I talk to people :(

shaquasia12, you’re pretty much telling us that if you wear certain clothes, you’ll have instant friends. What happens when you wear something less extravagent?… exactly. They won’t be true friends if they just like you because of your clothes.

You have to start somewhere. I think you just need to chill.There are people that feel the same way, whether you choose to believe it or not. But have you noticed that if they freak out, they get a TON of attention? BAD attention. You know, like “what the f*ck is wrong with them?” I’m not saying you’re the same way, because you’re probably not. But you definetly don’t want to be that person!

Like I said, just CHILL OUT! People are judgemental, it’s just human nature. But they’re not standing there making a list of everything bad about you. Everyone’s not out to get you, I promise! LOL

I really don’t have any friends, but it’s a new year in a new school. Tonight, I’m going to sit down and make a list of every good quality that I have (everyone has some really good things about them) and then I’ll make plans to let that good quality really shine! That may be a good suggestion for you. I mean, just hold the door open for someone- it really CAN make a difference! =]

I am 54 and I have a problem with letting people talk to me. I try all the time, but it doesnt seem to work out. Most people just think in strange I guess. But mostly its because I have been hurt so much in my life (since I was born) by everyone who mattered, including my parents, that I am afraid to let myself go and I think I push people away with my fear. It is so frustrating because I think I might be an outgoing person, but most of the time I think I have nothing to say that would interest people, or that I am ugly (my parents told me that for years and kids used to make fun of me because I was so depressed all the time when I was in school). I have felt pretty worthless most of my life. But I do have to say I keep trying. I am making a list right now of people from my church that I am going to invite to my home (I am painting and redecorating) for an easy buffet and I am going to make sure its a group of people who will make the fun themselves, so I dont have to feel like the work is on me (I feel so pressured then). I love these people and look forward to having them here. They are wonderful. Its just me. So I keep trying to get over it. I think if I just keep socializing, pretty soon I will get the hang of it. But you have to admit, after 54 years of trying, I am no quitter!! LOL

not to brag but in really popular in school and I am so shy to I don’t no how it happened but all I no is wear sumthin extravagent where all eyes shuld b on you and and let people tlk to you or face your fears don’t luk directly in sum1s eyes luk away a lot

Yes, you can! I have the same problem sometimes, believe it or not! But remember- if you make a scene by looking like you’re uncomfortable, people WILL notice. Just act like you normally do, it’s NO BIG DEAL! Who are you trying to impress anyway? =)

Hey, I know a lot of people and my new job involves talking to people. I have alway been out going, but I find that the most interesting people are the shy people. If you want to try talking to someone my advice would be to smile, NOT to were you are uncomfortable, but just to let others know you are open. Then talk about something that interests you and you either know or think well interest that person. (lol wow complecated sentence there hope you understood). Let loose! just alittle! My best friend is so shy that we had every class together for a year and I didn’t even know she was there and one teacher forgot her on a field trip! But she is one of the most interesting and fun people I know!