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why cant I c*m

I always hear people/girls talking about how they cum when they have sex but that has never happened to me. does that mean my boyfriend is not doing a good job? I mean I think it’s good. I have read about it and it might be a psychological problem but I don’t know!

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Answer #1

And finally if you do mean actual female ejaculation (so called ‘squirters’), only a very small number of women actually squirt. You may sometime down the road, but more likely you never will. Most can’t.

Agreed. The hype behind the ‘squirters’ was mostly generated by the porn industry. Boys see it, they want to live it… even though porn isn’t known for being… realistic.

Answer #2

First: define what YOU mean by ‘cum’

  1. to climax or to reach orgasm
  2. to ejaculate
Answer #3

ejaculate

Answer #4

According to what I’ve heard many times on Loveline, 1.) Most women (50%+) NEVER c*m from simple intercourse. They need more direct stimulation, either oral or manual (or toy induced). and 2.) While men are able to orgasm almost immediately after the start of puberty, women often take years before their bodies get fully mature and able to have an orgasm. Into their twenties, sometimes.

So while your boyfriend might be lacking in ability, it’s just as likely that you may need to learn how you two can work together to gain what you want.

As far as psychological problems on your part, it could be, but only if you have suffered some form of abuse growing up (including guilt-tripping religious upbringing). If this is the problem, you will only get better through therapy.

And finally if you do mean actual female ejaculation (so called ‘squirters’), only a very small number of women actually squirt. You may sometime down the road, but more likely you never will. Most can’t.

Good Luck!!

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