Who thinks I'm being stupid about pregnancy?

Every single time I have sex I think I’m pregnant. We use condoms and he pulls out but I get super paranoid afterwards that maybe there was a tiny hole in the condom, even though I know there wasn’t. It’s like I have ocd with this issue. I stay up at night worrying and worrying. I even imagine pregnancy symptoms are happening to me, when they’re clearly not. I have a boyfriend I’ve been going out with for 2 years now and it’s ruining our sex life. The last time we had sex exactly one week ago, we used a condom but we had to stop before he even came because I was so upset I almost started crying knowing how I was going to feel until I got my period, paranoid, anxious, sick and crazy. Even right now, im convinced that I could possibly be pregnant because after we couldn’t have sex I gave him a hand job so he didn’t feel totally crap about it and im thinking because no one wiped it up after he came it could have somehow found its way inside me and I’m pregnant because I sat near a stain on his sheet it made. Or that he could have had some on his hand when he touched me and that did it…I hate myself for worrying like this but I cant stop, what should I do?

Answer #1

Thanks for the advice :)

I don’t think I’m as ready as I thought I was to have a sex life so I’m holding out until I’m old enough to deal with an unexpected pregnancy on my own.

Boyfriend will probably dump me but if he does he’s not the kind of guy I want to be with.

Answer #2

yes, you are paranoid and worrying to much and all that stress can actually delay your period and cause pregnancy symptoms if you constantly think your pregnant so its not healthy maybe go on the birth control pill as well the added protecetion might make you feel more safe or talk to a doctor/counsellor about how you feel and ask for help

Answer #3

Get BC and then if that doesn’t help I would go and get counselling. And maybe you are not ready to have sex yet I know your 19 but you may not be ready if you are worrying so much about this.

Answer #4

I know how you feel anytime me and my boyfriend do anything I get scared because he isnt the carefullest of all people… when we were having sex we’d use a condom but I’d always get scared… you really may not be ready to have sex yet and I’m sure your boyfriend would understand… and you could have him wear a condom when y’all are just fooling around so that he doesnt get on the sheets or anything so you wouldn’t have to worry about that… I’ve been through this the only way I got over was by not having sex.. granted my boyfriend isn’t to thrilled but if yours really loves he will put up with it until you are ready… you should try birth control and see if that helps if not then maybe you should talk to some one.. you could always talk to a friend or a parent about it

Answer #5

If your that worried, then maybe you aren’t that ready for sex and/or don’t know enough about it. I suggest reading and researching how your body and protection works.

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