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My family and I are in family court right now. We have been through a lot this year. I was falsely accused of harming a child not my own. I spent 6 months in jail awaiting trial to finally have the case dismissed. Family court is saying that because of these allegations I could potentially be a risk to my own two children. They are ordering me to remain out of the home and have supervised visits with my children. My wife and I know that I am not a threat to my children or any child for that matter. Our case is up for review in two months. We have been disobeying the order by me living at home. We feel God has made me the head of the household so how can I be the head if I'm not in the household. We feel we are obeying God, but are fearful of what could happen by disobeying the court. Looking for some good spiritual advise on what to do.
God orders we obey the law of the land (Romans 13:1- has something about that, and it's slightly applicable here). How can you protect your family/ be the head of the household if you are in PRISON? Which you will be, if you disobey the court order. They will throw you in jail for that, and you can count on it. You should get webcams- that's how some people I know keep in touch. They video chat with their children, and although their kids are in college, it definitely brings them closer together.
What kind of example are you setting for your kids if you disobey the court order and wind up in prison? Sure they miss you know, but they'll survive. Think of the kids who's parents are away in Iraq or Afghanistan... they don't crumble because their parents are mia- they go on with their lives!
The court is allowing supervised visits with your children. I think you should show good faith to the courts (and a good example to your family) and stay elsewhere. If you show yourself to be a disobedient criminal (which you are, by the way, for disobeying the court order) you are going to lose credibility in the courts.
May I just ask you, who was looking out for your wellbeing when you were falsely accused of harming that kid and why did you still end up in jail and are ordered not To stay at your own home, if god is taking care of you? Now you want to spend a possible 2 + years in jail for disobeying a court order? My advice is, you are in over your head already, why try your luck again??? Obey the order, it would be hard, but I assure you spending a much longer time in jail wouldn’t be worth taking this risk!
Who is then going to be the caretaker of your familty???
personally, I think you should obey the court, and leave the rest in gods hands. I'd put the entire situation in gods hands. have faith . if the court finds you disobeying the rules they made, that makes you look rebellious, and could hurt your case. you can still be head of house hold by supporting your family financially.right now you are putting it in your hands, dealing with it the way you see fit. GOD can work miracles. put your trust in god, and he'll do the right thing. your doing the wrong thing by doing what you feel is right.
We feel God has made me the head of the household, so how can I be the head if I'm not in the household
God is the head of the household, even before you. Its easy to have the mindset that if you're there everything will be alright, but you just need to leave it in God's hands and believe He will make things alright. Follow the court order, it is not against the Word. Follow the law and do as the judge says, dont do anything that might turn this situation worse.
There are exceptions to every rule (most everyone would agree slavery NEVER should have been legal) but I don't think this is the case here. God helps those who help themselves and I believe you can best help by obeying the law.
Think of the fathers stationed in other countries b/c of war, falsely imprisoned, etc. There is much more to being a good father than residing with the family 24-7.
the bible says to obey the laws of the land. I'm sorry but it would be best to move out. you can't be the head of the household while your in prison.
Their is one loophole that I know about (I know social services laws) if you just "accidently" ran into your family in a public area social services can't do anything about it.
read the court order carefully, you might find another loophole
Do whatever you are willing to pay the consequences for. If the court can put you in jail and separate you from your kids because of disobeying a court order, how can you serve as the head of house from a cell? Living separately in your own place , instead of in a jail cell sounds better to me personally. Then after a while of proving yourself maybe things might change.
You are not DISOBEYING God by following the court order, and I think that's an important point to make. You can obey God AND the court (and better your chances in this whole mess) by following the court order and trusting that God will in turn take care of you for doing what you should, exhibiting patience and peace through trust.
Thehelper - ***Their is one loophole that I know about (I know social services laws) if you just accidently ran into your family in a public area social services can't do anything about it.
read the court order carefully, you might find another loophole***
Isn't that lying Thehelper???
Your children will end up in the hands of CPS. Stop disobeying the court immediately or you will probably suffer extreme consequences. If god decides he wants you to disobey a court order, let him tell you that personally before you simply assume it to be true.
Utopia yeah exactly ;-)
Does that mean Christians may lie when and where ever it suits them?
Whereto a non believer are a real bad person for doing the same thing hey!
Nobody said obeying God would be easy.
If that's the course you choose to take, then you're going to have to suffer the consequences of those actions.
Uh, has god spoken to you personally? Or are you just deciding that your god prefers you to do the thing you already want to do?
You can't provide for your family when you're in jail... and the law doesn't recognize God as an authority in the matter.
Riiight... find loopholes and exploit them... is that the 'righteousness' Christians so often speak of?
yes, jane, that is lying...but thehelper is a christian so it is okay for him to lie...
