Who should I be angry with, my husband or his sister?

I think your husband is just trying to keep the peace. He doesn’t want you two pulling him into a huge argument. It will end with ‘who do you love most’ and he doesn’t want to have to chose between you, his wife, and her, his sister.

Don’t be angry at your husband. Sit him down, and without yelling or getting upset, just ask him if he knows why she is doing this to you, what have you ever done? and what the two of you could do to resolve the situation. You need to play the adult card here. Calling her a b*tch, or deciding on malicious, devious revenge is not the way to go. Do what your husband said, be the bigger person. Just ignore it as much as you can. If she says something to your face, don’t say something mean back to her, just calmly ask what she meant by that comment. If she’s still being immature, just leave and say something like ‘I have no time for this behavior’.

This is not your husband’s fault. It is his jealous sister. She probably doesn’t like that you spend more time with him than she does (which is totally normal!!). Just ignore her as best you can, and talk to your husband about how much this is affecting you. Good luck.

It’s your husband’s sister…HIS family…so it is HIS responsibility to tell her to back off. Whatever he has to do…even if it means that she can’t come over, or you two can’t go to her home, then so be it. His first responsibility is to you…his wife.

p

Well both of them but don’t be angry with your husband just ask him to defend you,but it depends on what’s making her angry.

I think your husband is just trying to keep things in order. But he still shouldn’t let her talk to his wife that way.. it doesn’t matter what’s bothering her, it doesn’t give her a right to talk however she wants to talk. If she’s an adult, she needs to start acting like one, and your husband should say something every now and then. You know, a simple ‘’Don’t talk to my wife like that’’..

You don’t need to be mad at him, just tell him what you think he should say to her. :)

I think his sister is being very childish and I think that your husband is caught in the middle between wife and family. I am sure he is confused on who to defend, how to defend them, and when it’s appropriate not to defend or support them. I think you should give your husband the benefit of the doubt and hope that if it ever got farther than petty BS than he would put his foot down and let them know they can not and will not treat you like that especially in your house or in front of the family at functions. She’s probably just jealous of you anyway it happens pretty often, and she is miserable and misery loves company.