Which one of us is crazy?

I met this guy on line last year and there was immediate physical attraction…after a few weeks he mellowed out on the physical part and said he wasnt that into intimacy. I settled for being just his pal but when I started dating others he got very upset. Ive asked him monthly over the past year if he wants to be my boyfriend but he keeps coming up with excuses for why he can’t. The problem is he is over all the time- we mostly hang out with each other and we still are intimate. He says stupid things like “we’re just friends” and “ he understands if I want more then I should find someone more compatible.” But whenever I attempt to do that he says that I don’t really like him. This is obviously not the case. I adore him, and I just want to know if we are going to be together or not. We act like we are together but as long as I don’t call it that everything is cool. He says he “hates when a relationship is new…” what relationship? Aren’t we just friends? I’d like him even if he never changes but the wishy washiness drives me nuts…any advice?

Answer #1

Agreed w/mr_smedheader!

You 2 are nothing more than “friends w/benefits”! Sounds like thats all he wants from you! If you want a relationship, this isnt the guy that will give you one!!

Answer #2

nnumber 1 … this guy soundslike hes not that into you. i’m sure we could find someone that he would be into intamacy with.. you should be with someone who craves being with you and the way you are!!!

and hes jealous that you’re dating other guys.. OF COURSE! hes too insecure to dump you and meet someone else. DONT SETTLE . You go find someone who truly appreciates you. Ive often settled for people and i let these stagnant relationships happen.

if you’re not feeling great about the relationship, then theres probably something wrong there. i should really follow my own advice!

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