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How to deal with my Mom dating already?

my mom is 47! and she is still not even divorced from my dad, she lies and tells every1 she is separated, if she dates now, (if they were separated) did she cheat on my dad? she wears tight pants, band tshirts and i dont know, she is trying to hard, i see her tlaking to guys on her phone and texing them all of the time. i know normally, people could go talk to her about this but she will get mad and offended, i know in my heart she is leaving my dad just so she can date again, but dont you think she couldve wited!? how can i handle this

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Answer #1

Once a couple are separated then both can go and date, you do not have to wait for a divorce… your parents may have been unhappy together for sometime, or maybe your mum was.

your mum is finding herself again, she’s been a mum for many years, sometimes us mothers forget who we really are… your mum is living her life again.

i’m 47 have just found mr right, were both bikers, and all my piercings and tattoos have arrived since the age of 36… only last yr i got my lip pierced. i still wear short skirts, the community i mix with do not judge me, my children are both grown up and are happy for me, though they don’t approve of everything i do but accept that i am me.

i’m sorry you’re upset over what is happening, but i have a feeling that you’re parents may have been drifting apart long before you knew it and that your mum isn’t just leaving your dad to date other men, you do need to sit down with your parents and talk to them both… thier splitting up is obviously upsetting you and they need to know this so they can be there for you when you are finding it hard.

Answer #2

Sorry hunny, she technically IS separated, just not divorced. My mum did the same thing. A lot. Sounds like a mommy mid-life crisis…Talk to some friends maybe to help you out. School guidance counselor even. H e l l, me if you need someone. I know what you’re going through.

Answer #3

In the ideal world married couples would wait until the ink was dry on their divorce decree before dating again.

The problem is that divorces can be expensive and take years.

Do you want your mom to be happy? It is natural to be upset at the prospect of you mom seeking comfort in the arms of someone other than your dad. It sounds like your mom wasn’t happy in her marriage to your dad and that she is just looking for what she needs in order to be happy.

Answer #4

im with you, i went through the same thing. try to talk to her but dont hurt her feelings. if you want to talk message me =)

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