When Should We Start Doing Stuff?

Me and My boyfriend are both 14. We have been boyfriend and girlfriend for over 2 years now. We have kissed, hugged, made out, gone to the movies together, and we spend lots of time with each other. The thing is, he wants to take it further. I know he would want to finger me or for me to suck him off. But… I’m not sure if I want to. I mean, I really want to do these things, I would even have sex, but I a) am not prepared for the consequences, eg. pregnancy/diseases/infections. and b) I don’t want him bragging to everyone and c) im not perfect, my breasts are abit oddly shaped, and im not very thin (size 10) and plus I dont know whether he likes shaved/waxed/natural vaginas!?

help me please.

Answer #1

okay, well im 14 right now and im pretty sure I can give you best advice here. I have a boyfriend right now too. but weve only been going out for 4 months.. but any ways he would start to finger me and I would give him handjobs. really nothing much to it. but thn we both wanted to have sex.. and this is a true story, just 2 days we had sex. bc I snuck him over at night and thn we did it. and we got caught so now im grounded. and I seriously almost lost him. and now I might even be pregnant(at the age of 14!!) so if I were you I would wait til your at least 16. unless you really wanna be in the situation im in.. and im sure you dont want that. but you guys can do all the foreplay stuff but wait to have sex tho. and iff he really does like/love you he would wait as long as you want to. and if you dont wanna suck his dick thn dont.he really cant force you to it. but I wouldnt bc I really honestly think that disgusting and I even told my boyfriend that and he didnt care. he still accepted that I wouldnt do it, and dont worry bout how you look. bc like I said if he loves you he wouldnt care how you look at all. but trust me hun guys always will brag unless you have a good guy.

Answer #2

Hey, im a 15 year old boy and me and my girlfriend have never had sex, but trust me, it has been a point in conversation MANY times. Every time we talk about sex I reassure her that im not going to pressure her into doing anything she doesn’t want to. She knows that im not the kind of person that would pressure anybody to do anything that they don’t want to do. We’ve talked about protection, I brought it up in fact. I have assured her that when she is ready we will have PROTECTED sex. As far as your situation, The easiest way to tell if he’s using you or is really into you for YOU, is to ask yourself, is he pressuring you? Is he pushing sex on you? Does he know your not ready? And as far as vaginal hair goes, im sure he doesn’t care.

Answer #3

DONT DO IT!! please! your going to regret it for the rest of your life, listen to people like me! anyways you should dump him…if he wants to have sex at this age he probably is only using you?! I’m not sure but it could be true! and if he really likes you then he would wait, or just not do it because you should have SEX before MARRIAGE! WITH someone YOU LOVE!

Answer #4

no buddy don’t do it.a girl’s virginty is very important for her. give it to right person at right age. it will be too early to have sex. first you should understand it which type of boy will make you happy for whole life. then find him and make a long lasting relation. between girl and boy physical attraction is main attraction. when you will have sex. all interests will be gone. We cannot trust men so easily. somtimes they missuse the girls sometimes they are loyal.once you lost your virginty you will never get it back. so give it to someone special to make your life happy.its not burgur or sandwich. its your virginty.

Answer #5

the biggest mistake I ever made was having sex when I was 14. after you guys break up, he will tell everyone you guys did stuff, and you’re not physically ready for sex when you’re only 14. sorry, but its the truth. im almost 16 now, and im still gonna wait awhile longer before I have sex again, because boys are still immature at this age. dont do it.

Answer #6

It’s fine. Almost everyones breasts are alittle odd shaped. No one is perfect. And you can even talk to your boyfriend about this stuff and see what he would want. See how he would want your “stuff”. Just talk to him. Buy condoms and be safe. He shouldn’t cars about your weight either, and since you guys have been dating this long he definatly must not. Good luck :)

Answer #7

if hes your boyfriend he will understand that you want it to be your secret, if he loves you, he wont mind if your shaved natural or waxed.. and to stop pregnacie.. get condoms,, Here in Sunny belfast we have the Brook.. you get condoms, lube anything you need.. they are helpful people and will help just ask..

you will be fine darlin

Answer #8

he probably likes hairy vaginas, because most boys do. and I would wait until your married to have sex. because when ever you have sex. it sucks. your belly button shrinks and your nose grows very long hair. so be careful

Answer #9

u should start doing things about a year and a half ago

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