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How to handle having Court with my rapist?

I hvae court this week for the open rape chargers from almost 4 years ago. This is the 1st trial and I have to bring my son Edward with me so they can do a DNA test. Im terffied out my mind not only in the same room as a man that hurt me beond words can explain but know I have to bring my son into this. My Finance is comming with me for moral support but I dont know what to do I dont want my son seeing me scared becuse it going to make it worse for him and know the one thing I didnt want him to know is that I had a child because of this.

I know its not possible for him to get any rights to my son but im scared that if he see me out walking with my sons that he would do something else to hurt me its bad enough that ever time I saw him in a store I would drop everything and grab my sons and run out the store but now he would know its me and “his son” but before he didnt know it was me and he didnt know anything about my son Edward. So on top of the fears and nightmare I arleady had there will be more just him seeing me is bad enough.

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Answer #1

I can’t tell you what to do, but I can say thank you for having the courage to do this. I know that it may be the hardest thing you’ve done. Thank you again. By making this stand, your sons will learn first hand that women are to be respected (as are all people).

Good Luck!!!

Answer #2

well. how old I your son? if hes old enough then maybe he will understand why your so scared, if not them try to keep him with your fianace for as much time as you can. then, the court os going to tell him that he has a son. and then he will see him so he will kinda know that he is your son. I understand your pressure and anger.

my cosin were adopted after her stepfather raped her for three years. then she got raped by a group of guys. she is only 14. she almost got pregnant and had to go to court with him. it was the hardest thing she has ever done.

I dont fully understand all your fear and anger. but I wish you good luck. and if its not to personal. after the trial if you could funmail me and tell me how things went.

hope I helped.=]

Answer #3

I’ve been in this cituation before, and jsut take a deep breaeth I mean he cant hurt you when your in court because theres lawyers and all those other people there and that would just cause more trouble for him. and your man ull be there to be able to protect you even if he did. so dont even look at the guy who raped u, when ever your on the stand pick out your fiancee in the court and look ONLY at him, just watever you do dont give the rapist the satifaction of sein you scared

Answer #4

my oldest son “his son” is 3 years old either way im scared shitless to go I go on Wed. and thurs.

Answer #5

wow I dont know exactly what your going through but if it was me I would be scared to death to.but just be brave and do your thing.and I hope everything goes good.and when you get back from court would you mind telling me what happened.

good luck and be brave!!!

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