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What to do if I cant have physical emotions with my girlfriend?

I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years and a few months.. We are both 18 and I know for a fact I love her so much and she loves me too. We even talk about marriage after college. Our emotions towards each other are amazing, there is only one problem I have been trying to deal with for so long… When it comes to physical emotions like sex, it doesnt happen. She pleasures me once in a while with her hand and teases me but thats about it. She doesnt let me do anything to her at all. I love her and I respect her choice but it gets really fustrating. I have thought of options of taking a break but I just cant do that b/c I rather stay with her and I cant think about us beeing apart… I have thought about cheating but that just isnt me and I would never do that to her. I just dont know what else to do b/c it just gets harder and harder as our love and emotions grow stronger… And b/c of that my urges to just make love with her grow stronger day by day. I have talked to her about this countless of times but it just isnt fair, her choice is a firm one and she just wont budge… I asked her if she is waiting for marriage, but she isnt sure..but no matter how hard I try with words, setting up romantic dinners, anything and everything… She wont change her mind… I dont know what else to do and im really really looking for some advice b/c I am getting fustrated beyond belife. I even decided I can even wait for sex till marriage but I do not know why we cant have oral sex for me doing it to her and her to me, or me pleasuring her with my hand or anything of that nature. I just dont know what else to do…

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Answer #1

As much as you probably arn’t going to like this answer, there really isnt much you can do if she is morally against it. Unless the reason is that she is scared, which from what you have said, doesn’t seem to be the reason, no amount of romantic dinners will make budge. I am kind of in your girl friends situation where I want to wait until possibly marriage and it drives guys crazy. It also drive us crazy when a guy tries to push it so much after we have already said no. You might want to try backing down for a month and not mentioning it. She might find it weird that you just stopped pushing which could make her more interested if she feels like she would have to persue it. If she constantly feels like she has to defend herself on the issuse, she is going to stay more against it. Again she is probably gonna stick with this for a while.
I agree with you that taking a break or cheating is not a good idea. This will kill the trust with your girlfriend and your relationship would be over. I guess you need to figure out whats more important to you, the girl or sex.

Answer #2

I’m currently in the same situation with you where I’m the girl. I love my boyfriend and I know he loves me but I want to wait until marriage for sex and he wants it now. Whenever he pushes me for it, it kills me, becuase I’ve told him countless times I want to wait and he cant seem to understand why. Each time he pushes me for it, I feel like the sex is more important than I am. It has gotten so bad that we began fighting every few days, not little ones, full blown ones. But after the last one, I told him to decide, me or the sex, and he chose me, so now he is trying to understsand my reasoning and my morals. I agree with everything forever says, when I was puished for it, I wanted it less, and I came to hate the idea of having sex. Cheating is never good. Try to understand where she is coming from, is she religious? has something else affected her descision? Stop pushing her for it, if she changes her mind, she will come to you.

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