What to do about my mothers way of speaking to me?

Your mom really have some serious issues. I mean what mom in her right mind says the things that your mom say to you. you said she has anger management issues right? so she needs to see a counselor if she hasn’t already done so. You do not deserve to be her object of frustration and anger. And I have no doubt that it really hurts you deeply, but at the same time you love your mom and would like to help her out. First, I think it is best to talk to her about your problem when she is not in her one of her mood swings. it is best when she is relaxed and in a good mood. Second, you should try and understand your mom and why she is doing those things in the first place. Usually there is a very real yet deep and unnoticed reason why she acts the way she does. It may be because she had issues with her own parents (either mom or dad or both) while growing up and now the cycle is continuing with her relationship with you. I know it is very difficult to be the one who must be understanding in this case especially since it should be your mother who should be the one to be more understanding of you. If your talk with her does not work out and from what I can tell from your post, it ha been going on for a long time, then it is time for her to see some professional help. Try and take this up with her and see if she’s willing to seek out help since it is too ingrained now in her to change on her own. Understand that if this is a deep rooted problem on her part then expect it to not be solved overnight. Usually issues like this takes a slow and deliberate process. Hang in there and I hope this little piece of advice helped.