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What to do about my friend's sadness for her grandmother?

My best friend has just recently found out that her grandmother has been diagnosed with cancer.

She has been really upset lately and gets quite down. I am the only person who she talks to about it. She said that she feels she is the only one in her family who feels upset by it. I talk to her to try and make her feel better about the whole situation but sometimes I just don’t know what to say.

Her grandmother is a very strong person, she’s 62 and I just know that she’ll get through it.

Can anyone suggest any other ways of comforting my friend when she gets down about this?

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Answer #1

Try to do things (fun things) to get her mind off it. Lately, my grandmother, who is in her seventies, got a heart attack in Italy and is fine. However, a few months ago she was complaining about her leg hurting so we went to get her checked up. It turns out that they had to amputate her leg. It was very emotional and she’d say things like, “why me?” or, “why did god do this to me?” My whole family prays for her and tries comforting her but being a single mother of 4 and a single grandmother of 6 isn’t easy.
It always is hard for someone who has gone through a struggle like having a family member with cancer to get over it. And sometimes friends dont understand that.

Now, to answer your question, do fun stuff with her. You can either take her mind off it, or look at the positive side of it. Try things like visiting her grandmother and making get well cards or print out brochures of the cures for cancer. You can also print out short stories of people who have gone through cancer and been cured. Try things like fundraising for cancer research, like carwashes and coin drives! Look at the positives!

Hope I helped and good luck! :)

Answer #2

well tell her that the medications an everything this world has now that she may be able too get rid of the cancer. I actually heard that they do have a cure for it. but im not sure. mayb I heard it wrong. which I tend to do that a lot. but jst you know. talk to her. maybe get her out one day. take her & yall hangout. & try & get itoff her mind alil while too.

Answer #3

some times its easier for people to hide there emotions not her obviously but her family and there trying to be strong for her,,just a thought,,,

$hit happens,,I know that sounds mean but it does being sad or scared for her grandmother does help any if anything she shud try to be strong for her grandmother,,

with situations like that the best way to help your friend is just to be there and let her vent to you its in gods hands not hers

Answer #4

your friend should not worry ,himself about it.he should pray a prayer of faith and his grandmother will get well

Answer #5

Yes well I’ve said to her that her parents are just trying to make the atmosphere seem better by not letting everyone get down. That’s why she seems to be the only one upset by it. And I’ve also mentioned that she shouldn’t worry, her grandmother is tough etc..I know there are cures for it.. I’ve been taking her out shopping and we chill in Starbucks &&. Neros a lot so I guess that takes her mind off it a little bit too..Well thanks guys :)

If anyone else has any more suggestions that would be great :)

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