What should I say about the situation?

This girl has been my friend for 12 years. We used to do all kinds of this together. Jump roping, dance, street hockey…the list goes on. We wer best friends. But it seems like she changed. I know that when you get older, you change but she turned into a complete $lut! She is not fun anymore either.

When I go over to her house she tells me she doesnt want to do anything. Once I went over there in a bathing suit because she wanted to swim and then she changed her mind. She was in her pajamas watching charmed, hadnt showered (this was at 1PM) and didnt want to swim. Its ok once in a while but she never wants to do anything to do with activity. She is lazy now!

When we wer 13 she started dating online. She dated a guy who was 21 years old! He sounded 60! She had never met him, and never seen any pictures of him. He always wanted dirty pictures of her and she fingered herself on the phone for him!

Then one day we wer playing hide and seek outside with some kids and I found her because she was talking on the phone…not to the same guy tho! It was a 19 year old named Devin. Then later that night she called a boy up the road and he asked her out and she said yes. Then she asked out a boy from our school a month later. AND!! She met a guy name kevin online from florida. She dated them ALL at the same time.

Once she had only one boyfriend, and I took her camping, she stroked a picture of him and cried the whole time! Then she said she only had 12 minutes on her phone and wanted to use mine to talk to him. She just was being selfish.

Then when we went to the movies she asked if he could come and she got mad because I said maybe another time. The whole movie she continued to talk about how much she misses him.

Another time, she spent the night at my house, and she was on the phone with him for 2 whole hours! Then she gets off the phone and said she was leaving to hang out with him at 6 AM!!

At cheer practice she skipped to be with him, and lied to me.

My dad is an alcoholic an she told kids in my grade, when I told her not to…and I was in the 4th grade.

Then she told the specific girl that I didnt want her telling about the boy I liked and her excuse was…well she didnt get mad! BUT I WAS!!

She counts how many times she has sex with her boyfriend and tells me she feels sorry for me because I need one!?? I dont want one right now! She is a freak.

She wants us to be friends again but I dont want to. Am I wrong? Should I be friends with her??

Answer #1

With all your telling me, no. She is a very bad influence and I don’t like her one bit to he honest. Your best bet is to stay away from her, shes pretty much messed up her life. No need too screw up your life for the sake of being there for her. Shes not worth it really if she wants to be your friend then she needs to change herself to do that. Shes ignored you for the most part anyway. It sucks that this happened to her but you can’t do anything for her if she isn’t willing to cooperate which for the most part doesn’t seem like she will.

Hope this helps

Answer #2

I know exactly where your coming from, I had a best friend from kindergarden. and I don’t know around the 7th grade she began changing…and began spreading rumors about me being a hore when shes the one that has a new boyfriend every 2-3 weeks… and 2 years later she still talks shitt about me and we arent even friends… but what your telling me shes more than likely saying shitt behind your back. and I wouldnt be her friend anymore, I understand that you prob want to help her and get dwn to the bottom of her weird behavior, but theres only so much you can do. dont become her friend… I know it sounds selfish, but theres not much you can do unless you want to go around being her DOG; her BTCH then go right ahead, but your better than that, you can only try so much but she needs to put forth the effort… so when I was in your situation I gave her one chance, dealed with her bull sht once, then I threw her to the kurb, I was tired of being a follower and if you go back to her now, that exactly what you will be doing, you will be considered her DOG. so I say NO dont be her friend again, because then your going baack on your word and then she knows she can do whatever and youll still be her friend

Answer #3

You say she feels sorry for you, cause you need one… according to who? She is messing around with lots of the guys the same time and actually dares to say she is sorry for you?!… She needs to get down on earth again, and untill then if I were you I’d stay away from her. She is not only ignoring you, but she is totally disrespecting you and your secrets… friendship and love is both pretty much based on trust, and if you can’t trust her, how can she then be your friend?

She chosen to be a b* you don’t have to choose to be with such a person. I can’t imagin you’re having lot of fun around her when she is on the phone for 2 hours… she might as well just get out of your house, or you might as well leave her house if she pulls out that trick… She wants to be friends with you again? for what point and purpose? so you can sit in a couch or bed watching her talking on the phone with one of her guys she misses so dearly? It’s an insult against you and your presence, and she is wasting your time.

Really hope you’re not going to get back in touch with this one, and if you decide to give her another chance, then I really hope she’ll improve

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