What should I do about my dad and ex step mum?

I wil start at the beginning, so here goes, my dad and step mum, well now ex step mum are in the middle of a divorce, my dad stayed in the bungalow where they both signed an agreement to pay their half of the rent and she moved back to her home town which is newcastle. When my dad an rita (ex step mum) split up, she left straight away with nobody knowing where she went to, I still talk to her but im in a bit of a predicament now. My dad is in loads of debt because of her moving and not paying any of the bills, my dad is now classed as disabled as he has realy bad problems with his back and legs. He is waiting for an operation on his shoulder also, so he is on the sick! The people that own the bungalow want there money like now and my dad hasnt got it. Now I have ritas home addres were she is living, and her phone number but if my dad finds out he will fall out with me for having them and still talking to rita, my dad could end up in prison because of all this debt, and hes about to get kicked out of his bungalow and has no where else to go! What do I do? =(

        A- give my dad her address and have the risk of him faling out with me as well as rita as she made me swear down I wouldnt give it to anybody!

 B- leave it alone and my dad could end up in prison/on the streets, or even killing himself (as he keeps telling me thats what he feels like doing)

So some advice would help rite now!! As once again im stuck in the middle of them both weather they know it or not!! Thanks in advance

    Xxx sophie-lea xxx
Answer #1

ok think about like this

who alway been there for you?

A- your father

if your father kill his self or get lock up

A- who will he blame YOU

Who is your real family

A- your father!

here what it sounding like to me.

your letting rita Ruin your father life without doing nothing about it. you only got 1 father if he die. no one will be able to take his place… you should really make Rita pay her debt. and save your father. it would be wrong to let your father take the fall for all of this. even when you got a chance to stop it…IF rita ask how he find out easy enough LIE. and have your father agree to it. so therefore the heat will be less heavy on you.

if you decide not to do it… you will be letting your father die or get put away and be homeless… while Rita is living the good life somewhere else.

so you got a lot to lose here

if you choose rita—you will put your father in more trouble. and possible lose him forever

If you choose your father—you will lose rita friendship and truth ( not a lot)

so you got a choice to make

Answer #2

Give your dad ritas phone number!! or call her yourself, you dad wont flip I mean he needs her information right know so the dept can be paid. The both signed the agreement right? So if your dad has a copy he can tell that to the judge. But if he hasent paid his part eaither then that is a problem. If he has paid his part, and has the copy of the agreement that was sigened, and you have ritas adress and phone number she can be taken to court and asked to pay her part of the dept.

Answer #3

hedgecortha - your rite about most of that apart from the “your dads always been there for you” he hasnt aways been there for me, at the end of the day hes stil my dad. I wont be causing his death at all, he as much more problems than what I have mentioned on here, so im going to give the addrress to my dad! thanks xx

Answer #4

the thing is im not alowed to tell rita ANYTHING at all about whats going on with my dad, because it could mess up things with the solictiors, sooo any other ideas? xx

Answer #5

ermm well I would talk to rita about it and tell her what is happenin even if they have split up she will still care for him and especially you.

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