What should I do about my Abusive Step Dad?

My mom moved it with my step dad about 2 years ago. The first like…I dont know…3 monthes he was nice and didnt mind me and my little brother. Now he hates me for no ing reason. He threatens to beat the s out of me. He’s even told me that he was going to shoot me! I always try to stay away from him because he tries to find ways to make me go baserk. He says that once he gets me angry enough that I attack him he will beat the s out of me and KILL ME! All I want him to do is leave me alone!…I told my mom and she says, “He’s just having a bad day.” or “He doesnt mean it.” Then he started to get more aggresive and Me, my mom, and my brother moved out. But then we moved back in! Its all because My step dad cried and said “Ill never do it again.” And he still does it. And I still get my moms excuses! I cant move in with my Real Dad because he lives in another country (Laos) and my mom wont let me go there! Yesterday he came into my room and said that im a no good piece of s that deserved to die…When I told my mom she did nothing…What should I do? If I tell my mom im calling the cops she just says, “And where will you go…No one will want you…” I dont know what to do! I need help…

Answer #1

You have a very hard situation and I am so sorry that you have to go through a terrible experience like that. Has he ever been physically abusive and are there drugs involved? You’re mother is very much in denial and she shouldn’t be letting another man talk to her children like that; even if it were your own father. Mental abuse is just as damaging as physical, and he sounds like he needs serious help. Your mother could be staying around for many reasons: she has become co-dependent on him and thinks she needs him because there are no other options, she is afraid he will actually live up to his threats by stalking her and trying to kill her, or she wants to try and help him get better and change him. Regardless, she should communicate with him when he treats you or your family like that, no matter what you or someone else may have done to upset him. Threatening to kill someone is never a right way to discipline someone, nor a way to cope with anger or jealousy issues. Every person has a choice to decide on how they will react. There can be many reasons to his abuse considering his past before your family, drug usage if any, and possibly even psychological problems that aren’t diagnosed. If the situation is that terrible, it should be brought to your father’s attention; if he is a good father himself! If he was a good father at all, he would take you and your brother in regardless of what your mom says. She cannot tell you that you cannot move in with your father whether it be in another country or in the same city if he has the same legal rights. Calling the cops will not make anything better, but probably just stir up the situation more, causing him to be angrier when the cops leave. I say that because he sounds like a bit of a con artist, talking his way into and out of things. The cops wouldn’t do anything either unless something dangerous were to happen because they have nothing to prove his violent words. It’s not that they don’t want to help, but they can only do so much, and without evidence, they cannot enforce anything. It would be a warning for them, and they may contact social services, but from personal experience social services are very weak. After many school visits and even home visits and many questioning, nothing was done about it. I would tell them mostly everything, (what I told them should have been enough) but I live in Louisiana; things could be very different where you are. Most abused children will lie and say everything is fine from despite everything going on in fear of everything getting back to their parents. Foster homes would want you, and many people are adopted everyday. Keep your head up and become stronger from it. Don’t ever feel sorry for yourself or use the terrible memories as an excuse to your self-inflicted problems, because it will only break you down in the long run. Don’t let him destroy your self-esteem, but refrain from fighting back with him and using sarcastic behavior because it will only make the situation worse. I could go on and on but I only know a little bit about your situation. I have lots more of advice for you if you want to talk more about it. Always know there is someone out there willing to listen to and help you!

Answer #2

you need to get some help. that is very serious stuff. what youcan do is talk to some one at school. they can help you for sure. if something happened toyour little brother then you will feel guilty. or something can happen to you or your mom. try to get some help if not for you then do it for your brtoher.

Answer #3

Ty is right…you need to call CPS…you will probably end up in Foster Care, but that’s got to be better. You mom needs help getting out of there, too, it sounds like to me…but that’s her problem. As long as you and your siblings are safe, that’s the best you can do at this time.

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Answer #4

I would call up your dad and tell him what is going on. Tell him how you feel. Get him to get you a ticket so you can take a plane up there. Something. What I’d do is if he came in my room and said that to me I’d tell my mom and if she doesn’t do anything then I’d say “The next time he says something to me or my brother, My brother and I will run away and won’t come back.” That may help. But you may need to talk to a counsleor at your school and they will help you out BIGG TIMEE! IM sorry to hear about this. Hopefully it will stop.

Answer #5

Call child protective services. Someone will take you in. You wont end up on the streets.

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