Should I keep living with my dad and step mom, or should I go live with my mom and step dad?

Are they near enough to go back and forth, living half-time with each? If not, it’s a tough choice. It would be best if you have someone you can talk it through with at some length, who doesn’t have an agenda they want to impose on you but just wants to help you think out loud about it. You could try making two columns on a sheet of paper - one column for each family - and list every advantage you can think of for each column, giving each advantage a numeric score according to how important it seems to you. (Don’t list disadvantages; instead, turn them into their opposite advantage; in other words, “they don’t hit me” on your mom’s side instead of “she hits me” on your dad’s side. Simpler to “score” that way.) Whether you want to decide on the basis of their total scores or not is up to you, but in any case the exercise may help you clarify your thoughts and feelings about it. Here’s another question to consider: I’m sure you can picture in your mind the “worst case” and “best case” scenarios at both homes, but you probably can’t predict which of those two cases will be closer to the reality for each one. So think about which home - which set of family relationships - seems more flexible to you, more open to improvement if you work at it.