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Should I keep living with my dad and step mom, or should I go live with my mom and step dad?

My dad is a really nice guy, but he married an evil crazy woman who likes to treat me like dirt. the other day, my step mom hit me in the mouth for curseing. I told my dad, but he doesn’t belive me. I even had a witness tell him what happened, but he wouldn’t hear it. I can go live with my mom, but we are always fighting (yelling at each other) and her husband doesn’t really care for me. I need help to decide if I should stay or go.

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Answer #1

Are they near enough to go back and forth, living half-time with each? If not, it’s a tough choice. It would be best if you have someone you can talk it through with at some length, who doesn’t have an agenda they want to impose on you but just wants to help you think out loud about it. You could try making two columns on a sheet of paper - one column for each family - and list every advantage you can think of for each column, giving each advantage a numeric score according to how important it seems to you. (Don’t list disadvantages; instead, turn them into their opposite advantage; in other words, “they don’t hit me” on your mom’s side instead of “she hits me” on your dad’s side. Simpler to “score” that way.) Whether you want to decide on the basis of their total scores or not is up to you, but in any case the exercise may help you clarify your thoughts and feelings about it. Here’s another question to consider: I’m sure you can picture in your mind the “worst case” and “best case” scenarios at both homes, but you probably can’t predict which of those two cases will be closer to the reality for each one. So think about which home - which set of family relationships - seems more flexible to you, more open to improvement if you work at it.

Answer #2

live with real mum nd step dad

Answer #3

Hayyim gave some pretty good advice. Particularly the last sentence “So think about which home - which set of family relationships - seems more flexible to you, more open to improvement if you work at it.” You have two sets of parents and your having problems with all four. That suggests to me, you have a part that you play in the problems created. Personally I would follow Hayyim’s advice in choosing which family you want to live with. But also what you can change about you that would improve your chemistry with them.

Answer #4

only you can decide this, live with the people you feel the most comfortable around, the one’s who make you the happiest. if they both make you happy then just keep seeing them both :) xx

Answer #5

it depends upon your priorities.

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