What should I do, continue my job or not?

Hi I am little confused that should I continue my job or not? Actually my husband is vry conservative mind & I have to give my salary to him every month, I dont mind giving him as he has a nature of leaving me & our son on small little arguments & all. He can not listen any thing against him nor he can tolerate that either of us show him his negatives or argue with him on any point.so I try to cope up with him by cooperating, making my feelings supresed & giving my salary to him, so that he doesnt leave us again & again. The problem is inspite of talking to him very cooly & lovingly he hardly gives me any money, if he does than also just 50 or 100 rs that to for some thing or the other which is related to household as my office is at 15 to 20 mts walking from my house so he says that dont use conv go by walking. He himself buys everything & that too the things which are really necessary of running a life, nothing luxurius at all. I have been thinking what if I quit my job? Actually my son is 9 years old & he also gets frustrated with his father’s behaviour, I am thinking that why should I earn & give my money to my husband when he doesn’t have any feelings for us, why sholud I contribute to his bank balance when it is of no use to me or my son? Pls help making me decision, thanks with regards

Answer #1

Your basically giving your husband everything that you work for. I think you should quit the job and don’t give him anathing, sience he wants all the money and he seems to be in change of everything, then let him be in charge and see if he can do it on his own. It is unfair for you, and your kid because your working your butt off all day and just so you see the money disapear out of your hands and you don’t even know what is done of it. He seems like he is the kind of men that wants everything to be for him, and he wants to be controling. And sometimes that can affect in the long run and you guyses relationship can be in jepordy. I agree with the first advice posted, you guys can take meriage counceling, that will meaby help out the way your husband does things.

Answer #2

I would try to get money put back without him knowing. If your relationship is based on fears of him leaving unless you follow his rules it may be wise to save for when he does leave. Seeking counseling as lex icon said would be wise. You can’t be happy in a relationship of fear that something can make someone leave all the time.

Answer #3

If I were in your position, I’d be looking at taking some relationship counselling, to work out if the relationship can be saved- I think the state of your relationship is a little bit more important than whether you quit your job or not.

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