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What do I do because I have a new dad and new siblings???

ok I am 17 and until a couple of days ago I thought that the man I live with was my father but it turns out he isnt… my real dad left me at birth… and I have two sisters and 1 brother.. what do I do??? the dude that I thought was my dad told me that I had to pick between either meeting my real dad and never seeing the dude I thought was my dad or not having any contact with my real dad and staying with the dude I thought was my dad… he said that if I picked my real dad that he would kick me out… what do I do???

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Answer #1

I think that the dude is putting presure on you and he is also wrong. I would talk to him and let him know that you understand but that you want a chance to see your dad to get to know him because I;m sure that you have a lot of questions to ask him.

But the dude did get you trough all your chield hood and trough all the things in you life and he was you father figure all while growign up. It must be really har to know someone that you had all your life as someone you though isn’t.

But as I said before you have a right to talk to your dad you just meet him and know where you come from.

Let the dude know that you love and that you are thankful that even dough you were not his his chield but that you need to know who your father is. Explain to him all your feelings and let him know that this has all been really hard for you. I’m sure that he will understad I mean he has to.

GOOD LUCK!:)

Answer #2

pick that dude who throught was your dad because he has always been there for u.. yeah your dad might be sorry but he cnt change the past 17years.. im in care and my dad left me and now he wants contact I said now because he cud do the same again.. I hope I’ve helped xxx

Answer #3

I agree with yall but the dude that I thought was my real dad also treats me so bad that DSS got involved because of sexual and physical abuse… now does that change your mind at all and if not how about the fact that he calls be a bit ch all the time even though I dont do anything…

Answer #4

For one the guy you thought was your dad shouldnt put that kind of pressure on you. Its wrong. I think he is acting immature about the situation. You should talk to your mother and ask her waht your dad is like or you could stay with your dad for a while and see how you like things. If you like it better there than your current home then move with you real dad.

Answer #5

If hes Sexually abusing you & not Accepting your disision tell him to f**ckoff.

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