What should I do to become independant from my father?

That is important you must not do anything because of the revenge on your father. You should use your brain and regard only your long time interests. If the job with your father pays well then stay there for the money and do not care about him, if you can find an other better plus secure job then move there. Earlier or later you have to build up your own independent life, and every step yo do should serve this aim and nothing else. If one plus year in your father’s house takes you closer to this aim, then go back and do not care abozt that what he thinks, and when the time arrives you can leave. And be careful: do not ruin your future for only that “you promised to leave immediately when you are 18”. Do leave that house at the best time! Be celever, make plans, and disscuss them with a good friend if you have any. Anyways, what about your sisters? Why do not you three live together somewhere?

I don’t like promoting the Military … because i know how it was before i got in… it bugged me when someone told me a should join… but in your situation it maybe on option… my sister is in right now…. and she enjoys it… and yes its not for everyone… it doesn’t pay so well… but you have to think of the benefits .. free housing, free medical, food included… you could enlist for 3 years… and probably get $48,000+ for college… and i know what you are thinking… what about the war? Well you are a female… you can get into many non combat related fields… like food service or something… which is a relaxed job… and yes you probably would be going to iraq… but at the same time you wouldn’t be in a combat area… you would be on base.. you get paid alot more when you are in iraq too… between 2000 - 3000 a month… tax free… depending on your rank the time you deploy… But you seriously need to get away from your father… he is bad news… and you need to talk to your mom about getting her away too.. .because it doesn’t sound like a good situation for any of your family.

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Jason

You may leave your present job only after you have found a better one.

If you need to stay in order to pursue your studies, then stay for a while. Dont be such in a hurry to leave just because of your dad’s presence. Just keep looking for opportunities. The right time will come.

if i was you is would quit my job and look for another one, because your 18 and you need to live your own life, you say you dont want to go back home because of your fathers drinking thats the reason why i say leave, the longer you stay working with your dad the more he will thimk you will go back. hope it helped

find another job that isn’t around your father. use the experience you have. save as much money as you can, until you can afford to get your own place.

work hard and go to school.