what can I do to convert my mum into my friend ?

thank you !! but the problem is that my father is dead 2 years ago: he was very smart and understood me very well and loved me and since his death my mum have been so strict and hard to deal with but I think iam gonna do what you asked me to do cause I never had some mature conversation with my mom… thanks !!

I guess moms are just like that. they may be really protective to the extent that sometimes they would rather you wont experience life so you wont get hurt at all or make mistakes. I think a good way is to let her know that she could give you some privileges such as going out with friends and stuff BECAUSE you are a good girl and you wont do anything stupid. its like saying that you trust the way your mom raised you and you’re confident you’re making the right choices. also, if anything’s wrong or whatever, you are gonna call.

im sorry for that :s

just make sure that your ‘requests’ are valid, reasonable, that you have back up plans, and that it doesnt become heated (keep your cool). I think parents appreciate it when their kids give them a mature conversation (it means, they’re raising them well).

good luck!

no sur I am not and by the way iam 15 and in the high school but I really don’t know what to do how can I make her understand that I am a teen and I really need some space , how can I make her understand that her job is to spy on me but just to give me love and freedom

thanks it was helpful what you just said but it wont work with my mum !! I know her she thinks that I am a little girl who can’t take respensability and who do everything the wrong way so I be better stay in my little jail ( I mean house) it’s more safe for my mum than to let me out and get into troubles trust me I realy think I am moving out !!!

hmmm.. how old are you and what year are you in (gradeschool? hs? college?)

do you think you are doing some things that make your mom believe that you cant take responsibility?