Urges to be pregnant, but don't want children?

I am having urges to be pregnant, but are definitely not interested in having children and I am 30 years of age; I had hoped that I had made up my mind by now. I cringe everytime I get this urge to be pregnant because I know I don’t want the end product. What is wrong with me, or do all women have this urge at some stage in their lives? I have been married for 4 years and with my husband for 9 years, has my biological clock started to kick in?

Answer #1

All woman get the urge at some point. Two of my aunts are in their 60s and niether have children. They both thought about it around the same time as you, between 30-40. My one aunt actually decided to be a surrogate to help out a family friend who could not have children, she loved every minute of it. She is the childs godmother also.

Answer #2

wow.. um how old are you.. I swear you must spend all nite on this site, asking questions.. I thought you were 13.. then one question you were like 15, and now your 30… you must be really lonley… I feel so bad for you… you need help.. they got hot lines out there for people like you… hope I helped…

Answer #3

your biological clock is always ticking but you are starting to get to the age where it will start becoming dangerous to have kids so you have to make a decision soon, if you dont want kids thats your choice but if you become older and unable to have a child you must realise there is no1 to blame but yourself. there is nothing wrong with not having a baby, some people just arent fit to be a mother

Answer #4

I don’t know if this helps…but I don’t think the person doesn’t want children because she is “unfit” to be a mother. Maybe, she feels that having a child, in this world, is not worth it. You can raise your children to be a model citizen, but what if your neighbor isn’t? Would you want your child to be around or live around an “undisciplined” child? I would not…how about you?

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Answer #5

Yes, your biological clock is ticking. I truly understand your cringing experience. However, I have started answering it. One of my co-workers said, “You may not want to have children, but at the middle-age to fifties, you may wished you did.” I really have to think about that. I don’t really want a child right now. I am doing my thang and loving it. However, I don’t want to have any regrets. Therefore, my husband and I trying and if I have one, I will be okay with that.

However, I do understand your comment. I am still there, but I don’t want to have any regrets.

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