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Too "dirty" to attract nice boys?

Quite a lot of people know or assume things about me and I don’t know. I’ve had much older boyfriends in the past and I feel like I’ve kind of a got a bit of a bad rep for it. I do dress a bit suggestively and I’m pretty open when it comes to talking about sex. I’m not even all THAT experianced tbh I’m actually a virgin. It seems I only attract boys that just want to f*ck about and sometimes I’m okay with that but mostly it kind of makes me feel cheap and uncomfortable. I don’t want people to think of me as some kind of tart but I don’t want to have to change who I am in order to avoid there lables. I really have no idea what I should do?

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Answer #1

well dresing suggestivley or provocativley isnt the best hing to do for numerouse reasons there are a lot of sick guys and sick older guys who prey on kids wwho wear revealing clothing but if you dont want to change perhaps try adding things say if you wear ripped fishnbets wear a pair of coloured stockings/leggings underneath of if youve got a low put top, put a singlet underneath miniskirt, pair of full length or half length tighs/ leggings underneath, ect as for the guys, if anyone comes onto you that you dont like quite simply tell them to fck off if anyone hgrabs you, ect do the same, or call/tell/yell or scream maybe insted of letting gugs “fck about” with you dont, wait untill you find someone who cares about you and actually respecvt you then youll be happy and otherguys wont just see you as a easy or cheap because they will if you always let them do whatever they want

Answer #2

Unfortunately people very easily stereotype people like you without actually getting too know you.

1 guy tells his friend ‘I saw that ‘enter name’ girl doing stuff with ‘enter name’ up the par yesterday’, And then he tells his friend, And so on, So a lot of guys find out about this, And think this without even knowing you.

It is up for you too fix this, Approach them, Dont be full on, Show your not what this origonal guy makes you out to be.

Answer #3

well you only have 2 options

  1. change urself up a bit, dont dress so slutty or “suggestive, dress like you want to be treated because people are going to lable you no matter what you ware its a sad truth that will probably never change
  2. stop paying attention, theres always going to be someone out there who treats you a certin way just because you are you and theres nothing you can do to change that, the boys go after you because you act like you will do stuff with them im sorry but theres no way to change that unless you change it up a bit
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