This is a real serious question please help

My guess is that you know that growing older will cause new experiences, situations and responsibilities for you. You are therefore probably scared of growing older because you are unsure that you are going to be able to handle these new “problems”.

Don’t worry about it. You are fully capable of dealing with the things that will come your way. The main thing is to remember NOT to try to cross your bridges before you get to them.

Hey, you’ve got a 1-year old boy and you’ve been handling that okay, right.

Don’t be afraid to tackle new things, As you accomplish new things you help to build your self-confidence so that you know that you are capable and can meet the challenges that will come before you.

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This will happen from time to time in your life. You are leaving one phase of your life and starting another. For one thing you are going to learn more responsibility which is stressfull for anyone. I think it happens to everyone durring each phase of their life. Mine happened about the same time, now I am 28. I hope that it can help you to know that from 18-23 I had a freaking blast at life. The way I cope with it is through G-d. When you were younger time seemed to crawl but that was only because you had nothing to compare it to. Now that you are older you see that it all changed so quickly. Its kind of like Jet lag but for life. You just need to reestablish a sense of time. I hope this helps although doubt it will, you will probably have to pull yourself out of this fear in your own way as I have. Good luck and G-d bless, if it helps from 18-23 I had a blast in life. Now my sense of fun has changed but its still fun to me.

Interesting question… I would say that your fear might be of one of two things (or both). It could be a fear of the unknown; not knowing what the future will bring. Or maybe the fear of being on your own and haveing to support yourself. “Will I have a good job?”, “Will I meet my soul mate?”, “Will I have a good life?”, “Will I be ready for death when it comes?” All of these things are difficult things to think about, and all I can say is to just experience life. From each good and bad experience in life you learn more about yourself. Sometimes it’s hard to enjoy life without having hit “rock bottom” first. Sometimes I’m afraid my future won’t turn out the way I want it to and I tell myself “If bad things happen, It’ll make me a better smarter person with another experience under my belt. And if things go well… then sweet.”

I hope I helped at least a little…

do you live alone? maybe you’re just afraid of being completely independent… afraid of being alone… 20 is a milestone I suppose, people these days want to at least be in a serious relationship and planning a future by 20… maybe you’re just afraid of losing your youthful innocence… afraid of being in the real world and facing all worldly problems… I’m not a psychiatrist, I don’t know, I can’t give you your answer… I think you need to find it yourself… good luck…

Hey sweetheart stop wasting your time worrying about that! You are nowhere near getting old, when you’re 30 you can start thinking about it. If you eat healthily, exercise enough (nothing extreme), and live a generally healthy lifestyle, your skin wont age, you won’t get overweight, (you need a bit of fat on you, I’m a guy and I’m telling you the guys don’t like these too thin chicks) and hey 20 years may seem old to you but its nowhere near. Enjoy life and seek happiness, I know it’s hard to find but its out there…

being 20 brings soo many new adventures, and oppertunities. You shouldnt be scared of growing up, because as you said every minute we ‘’grow up’’. But no-one ever said you have to act your age, have fun & live a little (:

It’s not really that big of a deal , find something to look forward to when your 19 , for some people it’s the legeal age to drink beer : ) haha on a more serious note , look .. you got a life you might as well live it . You should get a good job , find your true love make a family and have fun . But your soo young . YOu don’t have to worry about half that stuff .
HAVE FUNN !! Evenully you’ll settle down and perhaps then create your family .