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The guy I'm in love with won't date outside his religion!

Okay this guy is one of my really really good friends. And we are perfect for each other. So perfect that everyone tells me we should be together. And…of course I ended up falling in love with him. How could I not? There’s just one problem. The only way we aren’t perfect for each other…he says he won’t date outside of his religion, and I’m atheist while he’s christian. It sucks because I like him sooo much. I’m pretty sure I know what you guys are going to say…but I’m hoping there’s a way around this? Oh and also I’m totally someone that respects people’s religions and I would never ever make fun of him or be annoyed with him about something pertaining to religion. Just to make that clear.

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Answer #1

Wow< love is a really big word, and with that word comes compromise. If your friend is a christian (depends who you ask they might have a different definition of christian, but so far I found follower of christ and teachings,to be christ like etc.) when it comes to religion it’s extremely sensitive. I myself am christian, and I define me as a follower of christ, I am currently married going on 18yrs and my husband has never gone to the church. To say the least for me it has been a profound feeling of sadness, because I can’t force my beliefs upon him. On the other hand leaving the Atheist aside for just a little, why don’t you compromise and go to church, take it more like a learning experience and see what it’s about. because you can never know your true self if you don’t try things you are not familiar with. I am in no way implying that you should pretend to be something you are not, but if you claim to love someone you really have to compromise out of respect for the other person. You already know he is not going to abandone his beliefs over you, because truthfully it’s very hard for a true seeker of God that sees Him as salvation to completely abandon their faith. So it’s really your choice in many ways. Take at as a lifetime opportunity that you get only once, and if you don’t take advantage it’s gone.
You’ll be surprise what true love really is, you sound like a really good person, so hopefully you give yourself a chance to explore and find what might be a positive experience for you. I really which you the best, I don’t know how you define yourself as atheist, sorry I’m not too familiar with the term. Just like you I respect other peoples beliefs and thoughts, so I hope nothing I wrote offends you because that is not my intention. peace.

Answer #2

Just to make this more clear guys I was raised Christian. I went to church and sunday school and stuff since I was like 5. I know what it’s all about, I just don’t believe in it. And I have no problem going to church and stuff at all. I’m wondering if that would be awkward though…

Answer #3

It’s not awkward because majority of people who walk into church are skeptical and don’t really believe. It takes time and God has a lot of patience. I think whatever triggered you not to go to church is valid, but then again you have to weigh out the benefit from going to church with this friend of yours. I myself was almost dragged to church by my sister and I did not like it at first because of soo many reasons, but that’s my story. So no, give yourself a chance to be happy, and my guess is you won’t regret it if everything works out between you and your friend. Good life to you.

Answer #4

DAMN GTCHICK22…all that sh*t you just said was not even necessary…nobody asked you how you felt about athiest…your are another example of how closed minded and ignorant christians can be…the last time I checked God said that you shouldnt judge thats his job…but as for you SINGINGISLOVE…what you need to do is find some common ground between you 2…take the time out to see if he feels the same for u…if there is really some love there then there is room for compromise…maybe you can try going to churh with him maybe you can start to see God in a different light…and maybe just maybe if he loves you the same way he might eventually jut learn to love you for you and learn to deal with the difference…good luck

Answer #5

well sorry but I could never find my self dating or even hanging out much less being friends with an atheist. You should be glad that he even speaks to u!!! I bet he has better and nicer Christian girls or even girls from any other religion or race that he can give his attention to! A atheist isn’t even worth the attention baby girl! you should just leave the guy alone and date another atheist, you two would have a great life together. Sorry if im being harsh but Christians don’t work like that! and this is my point of view!! Good luck!

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