What if I just feel so alone?

I feel the same way if you want to ear the extremely depressing details (to see if you relate im not THAT selfish…) then fun mail me im always here to talk and try to help… all I can say for now is: imitate the smiley: :)

Okay, If anyones out there who can listen and come back with some good advice please help. So in one week I start my senior year and Im not looking forward to it at all, if highschools my problem I don’t know if I can make it one more year. I feel so alone. I can seriously say I have no one to talk to. Ive been really badly screwed over by each friend Ive had, and they’ve been abusive relationships, they started out really good but they all ended badly, theirs been the friend who we’ve known eachother since we were 4 but when Id try and vent to her or show I was upset she didn’t do it for me, I felt like I was talking to a wall, she cant give good advice, she couldn’t give anything but I would be there for her, if anything. I had another friend who was SO into herself, Id say Im upset and then she’d just be like Oh Im upset also blah blah and go on about herself, literally not helping me, not seeing I was crying for help. Another friend I vented to, I told her everthing. [Before I go on I want to say a point in my life, the majority of my sophomore year I was depressed and I use to cut myself, a lot I even thought about suicide and everyday Id feel miserable and to this day Ive only told 4 friends] so this other friend who I told everything to was the first to know how I REALLY felt and that I was cutting myself but she had so many family problems she actually told me she doesn’t like hearing about mine because they were similar to her familys and It made her upset so I stopped telling her but the problem was she was the only one Id go to. I had a friend who when I told her about my problems gave me the worst advice I hated talking to her about it and regret ever telling her about my issues. Then their was this other friend who from the beginning we just were doomed, she always got mad at me for nothing, I really felt like it was abusive 100% unfair, and finally I gave her a chance to show her how close she is to me and I told her my issues and that was the one time we ever spoke about it, we stayed close but she never once borught it up again and that really hurt, for me to not even open up to friends Ive known since I was 4, and I wanted to prove to this girl how much I trusted her was a mistake. I left them all, some I still talk to, only 1 I feel close with now she’ll always be my best friend, we’ve been friends forever, the one I actually first told were still friends but we don’t see eachother or talk often. I got a new group of friends, we call eachother best friends but they all just graduated. I felt I couldn’t open up to anyone at this point, so these four new best friends never knew about how upset I use to be, but they gave me confidence, they made me happy I didn’t have as much fun until them with friends but I never opened up. I felt so close with them until school ended and now we still hang out but I still have yet to vent or open up to them except for one of them. Sheila. I spent seriously maybe everyday of the summer with her, I told her things I never told anyone before but never about how I use to cut myself or I was depressed, I know im still really depressed but I havnt admitted it to anyone. I feel really drawn to her, the moment I started to get closer with her I felt theres something there. The thing is now I have trust issues and I think about the person she is and she doesn’t care about me as much as I would want. Im so there for her but I feel shes just another abusive relationship, lately shed been taking a lot from me and Im not getting anything back. I give advice, I ask if shes okay I offer favors but she never does it for me. I basically just had her this summer and these past 4 days we kind of fought and she told me she had trust issues with me, but I never gave her one reason to have those issues, and no ones given her friend issues, I literally have been backstabbed, betrayed, and just given the short end of the relationship, I always give and never get! ALWAYS. The whole day she avoided me, I text her every hour I even called an no answer I spent the day feeling bad for something that wasn’t my fault, but she didn’t even care and then we fixed it this morning but I know I cant trust myself with her, she gives me more pain than happiness now. She hurts me so bad and she doesn’t see it. I feel like she doesn’t know me at all now and its all been just fun our relationship and that’s how it’ll be. It wont reach emotional. I really feel alone I use to have so many best friends and friends now I felt like their was only one person left I could open up to and it was her and now I find myself trying to cut myself again, I stay in my bed all day looking at how I have a huge buddylist but no one to IM, how I have no one to hang out with, everyone has hurt me. I cant even get into my family issues. I don’t cry, rarely but lately I cant hold it in. Im really strong and Im not someone who asks for attention I actually really dislike people like that. You can say maybe all the relationships went wrong because it was my fault but I know how they went and it wasn’t. I also read people extremely well its amazing but no one can ever read me, I put myself out their, showing how I feel and no one tries to help. Im clearly unhappy and it sucks. Im going back to school with people I know I wont be happy with, because their the ones I left. I also go to a small private school and the people don’t change, I get a small amount of new kids. Its my senior year, and I have no one to even tell Im upset. This last time with Sheila I really started to be able to give her my trust, it destroyed me when I found out she didn’t trust me. Im so miserable right now it makes me cry writing this. How would you feel if your asking random people to go out with and you don’t have anyone to have that one friend who you tell everything to, that one friend whos supposed to go out with you when your doing something really fun but you need a co-pilot, you don’t have someone to just invite over and watch a movie with, when I do something really fun or important I don’t even have a friend to tell and to be happy for me. All ive ever needed was for someone to just come to me and ask if Im okay, someone to try and beat it out of me why Im upset, someone to lean on if Im upset. All I ever needed was for someone to show me they actually cared. Ive written so much and I actually wrote 2 long things before this one and earased it all because I get off track I could write so much on how I got to HERE, how I got so alone. My biggest fear is to be alone because the sad thing about having all these friends is I never felt they were real. I felt I never had an actual bestfriend it was all bad relationships. Finally I felt there could be a good one and here I am…. Writing a blog my emotions because the people I call my friends hurt me. I don’t want to be alone, Im so scared. Im scared to let anyone in now… I feel everything will be doomed either way. Im probably the problem, its most likely my fault right? How do I just keep ending up alone… It just really sucks when you start giving so much of yourself to these people who took it and never gave back and then they hurt you and left with what you gave them and I never got them back. It takes so much out of me. Im numb right now of any emotion… I cant think about everything I just wrote… Ill erase it all if I read it over… Im not being selfish for wanting someone to give me what I need because If Im always their for someone I wish theyd be their for me. Im no ones number one… and I don’t think Ive ever been my whole like friends have been a joke. I have nothing and no one to lose now… Ill regret posting this… because in some twisted way I wish someone I knew saw this and then I finally in a way opened up… You know no one in my whole life has ever randomly asked are you okay? Or asked if I wanted to talk… even when I was showing I was miserable Id have to spell it out for people to actually see how upset I was… and even then it was nothing on their part…

Okay, If anyones out there who can listen and come back with some good advice please help. So in one week I start my senior year and Im not looking forward to it at all, if highschools my problem I don’t know if I can make it one more year. I feel so alone. I can seriously say I have no one to talk to. Ive been really badly screwed over by each friend Ive had, and they’ve been abusive relationships, they started out really good but they all ended badly, theirs been the friend who we’ve known eachother since we were 4 but when Id try and vent to her or show I was upset she didn’t do it for me, I felt like I was talking to a wall, she cant give good advice, she couldn’t give anything but I would be there for her, if anything. I had another friend who was SO into herself, Id say Im upset and then she’d just be like Oh Im upset also blah blah and go on about herself, literally not helping me, not seeing I was crying for help. Another friend I vented to, I told her everthing. [Before I go on I want to say a point in my life, the majority of my sophomore year I was depressed and I use to cut myself, a lot I even thought about suicide and everyday Id feel miserable and to this day Ive only told 4 friends] so this other friend who I told everything to was the first to know how I REALLY felt and that I was cutting myself but she had so many family problems she actually told me she doesn’t like hearing about mine because they were similar to her familys and It made her upset so I stopped telling her but the problem was she was the only one Id go to. I had a friend who when I told her about my problems gave me the worst advice I hated talking to her about it and regret ever telling her about my issues. Then their was this other friend who from the beginning we just were doomed, she always got mad at me for nothing, I really felt like it was abusive 100% unfair, and finally I gave her a chance to show her how close she is to me and I told her my issues and that was the one time we ever spoke about it, we stayed close but she never once borught it up again and that really hurt, for me to not even open up to friends Ive known since I was 4, and I wanted to prove to this girl how much I trusted her was a mistake. I left them all, some I still talk to, only 1 I feel close with now she’ll always be my best friend, we’ve been friends forever, the one I actually first told were still friends but we don’t see eachother or talk often. I got a new group of friends, we call eachother best friends but they all just graduated. I felt I couldn’t open up to anyone at this point, so these four new best friends never knew about how upset I use to be, but they gave me confidence, they made me happy I didn’t have as much fun until them with friends but I never opened up. I felt so close with them until school ended and now we still hang out but I still have yet to vent or open up to them except for one of them. Sheila. I spent seriously maybe everyday of the summer with her, I told her things I never told anyone before but never about how I use to cut myself or I was depressed, I know im still really depressed but I havnt admitted it to anyone. I feel really drawn to her, the moment I started to get closer with her I felt theres something there. The thing is now I have trust issues and I think about the person she is and she doesn’t care about me as much as I would want. Im so there for her but I feel shes just another abusive relationship, lately shed been taking a lot from me and Im not getting anything back. I give advice, I ask if shes okay I offer favors but she never does it for me. I basically just had her this summer and these past 4 days we kind of fought and she told me she had trust issues with me, but I never gave her one reason to have those issues, and no ones given her friend issues, I literally have been backstabbed, betrayed, and just given the short end of the relationship, I always give and never get! ALWAYS. The whole day she avoided me, I text her every hour I even called an no answer I spent the day feeling bad for something that wasn’t my fault, but she didn’t even care and then we fixed it this morning but I know I cant trust myself with her, she gives me more pain than happiness now. She hurts me so bad and she doesn’t see it. I feel like she doesn’t know me at all now and its all been just fun our relationship and that’s how it’ll be. It wont reach emotional. I really feel alone I use to have so many best friends and friends now I felt like their was only one person left I could open up to and it was her and now I find myself trying to cut myself again, I stay in my bed all day looking at how I have a huge buddylist but no one to IM, how I have no one to hang out with, everyone has hurt me. I cant even get into my family issues. I don’t cry, rarely but lately I cant hold it in. Im really strong and Im not someone who asks for attention I actually really dislike people like that. You can say maybe all the relationships went wrong because it was my fault but I know how they went and it wasn’t. I also read people extremely well its amazing but no one can ever read me, I put myself out their, showing how I feel and no one tries to help. Im clearly unhappy and it sucks. Im going back to school with people I know I wont be happy with, because their the ones I left. I also go to a small private school and the people don’t change, I get a small amount of new kids. Its my senior year, and I have no one to even tell Im upset. This last time with Sheila I really started to be able to give her my trust, it destroyed me when I found out she didn’t trust me. Im so miserable right now it makes me cry writing this. How would you feel if your asking random people to go out with and you don’t have anyone to have that one friend who you tell everything to, that one friend whos supposed to go out with you when your doing something really fun but you need a co-pilot, you don’t have someone to just invite over and watch a movie with, when I do something really fun or important I don’t even have a friend to tell and to be happy for me. All ive ever needed was for someone to just come to me and ask if Im okay, someone to try and beat it out of me why Im upset, someone to lean on if Im upset. All I ever needed was for someone to show me they actually cared. Ive written so much and I actually wrote 2 long things before this one and earased it all because I get off track I could write so much on how I got to HERE, how I got so alone. My biggest fear is to be alone because the sad thing about having all these friends is I never felt they were real. I felt I never had an actual bestfriend it was all bad relationships. Finally I felt there could be a good one and here I am…. Writing a blog my emotions because the people I call my friends hurt me. I don’t want to be alone, Im so scared. Im scared to let anyone in now… I feel everything will be doomed either way. Im probably the problem, its most likely my fault right? How do I just keep ending up alone… It just really sucks when you start giving so much of yourself to these people who took it and never gave back and then they hurt you and left with what you gave them and I never got them back. It takes so much out of me. Im numb right now of any emotion… I cant think about everything I just wrote… Ill erase it all if I read it over… Im not being selfish for wanting someone to give me what I need because If Im always their for someone I wish theyd be their for me. Im no ones number one… and I don’t think Ive ever been my whole like friends have been a joke. I have nothing and no one to lose now… Ill regret posting this… because in some twisted way I wish someone I knew saw this and then I finally in a way opened up… You know no one in my whole life has ever randomly asked are you okay? Or asked if I wanted to talk… even when I was showing I was miserable Id have to spell it out for people to actually see how upset I was… and even then it was nothing on their part…

I know exactly how you feel and unfortionately I dont know how to help. but if I find out I will let you know.

i feel like that sometimes to there times where i just cant take it well you always have a friend to come to and it me just tell me and i will reach to you asap. being unhappy isn’t gonna solve ur problem u need to just let loose like that song girls just need to have lol but u cant b like this forever god did not put u on this world to not be heard so if you have know one to talk to come to me ill do what i can Good Luck!!!

I feel really alone some times and I just end up crying for hours and hours evern crying my self to sleep

The only possible way is to keep moving on, and no one can stop you from doing this.

Well, I do know it’s not that easy because most of us human beings have a routine, duties, obligations. And some of us, not much money (yeah, studying a degree + working + girlfriend + home duties sure isn’t easy, a little money would come in handy), but all these things are what forces us to mature. These things are what makes a huge difference between us and those poor devils that can have anything in life with just a little snap. These things are what makes your life worthy, and yourself proud.

I must admit I had good luck (well, it wasn’t just luck) in high school, but a lot of pressure was put on me. Now that I’m 20yr old, I look backwards and I can’t but laugh and smile…with time, it seems that most memories are happy ones, and the bad ones seem way more trivial.

Anyway, despite all of this, one can surely be happy. You just need to keep moving on, like I said before.

I’m sorry if I wrote anything stupid…I’m Spanish and my english’s not very good :P

I’ve considered what kua2u said, and I’m really shocked that (s)he’s damn right, “as we get older-we get happier”. Or at least, we see things from another point of view.

Take care :)

I know how you feel…I don’t really have any friends..I grew up hanging out with some people that thought they were all “cool” who called me names, hurt me, and made it look like I didn’t belong..by the time I hit middle school I realized they are freaks… just find someone that you can be happy with..hope this helped :)

It sound like maybe you do to much for other people and don’t demand enough for yourself. Next time you do need to talk or something don’t be afraid to say”hey I really need to talk” or just call someone on the phone and tell them what your felling.

I know exactly how you guys feel. I’m new to a school. And I have no friends. Its been a year I’ve been involved in the school, Im well liked, but have no friends. I’ve been slightly successful making sports team with ease, becoming a member of student government, yet the more I am the more isolated I become. Basically because I have no one I’ve spent the last six monthes trying to improve myself, working out constantly, running, I have basically decated my life to fitness. and yet its failed. I dont know what to do. The one girl who I thought could understand -the girl of my dreams is almost intimided by me, (which is scary considering she’s competing to become miss teen canada), I asked her a date and basically she was talking three miles a minute, apolegizing every thirty seconds. I dont know what to do. Whats the point in life if there’s no one to share it with.

I believe that one first needs to relax. We all have our ways to see life, and I don’t know if this will make you think a bit, but I just decided to write something. I understand how you feel, I have seen depressed people in my family I have seen uncles moaning because of his or her dead husband or wife, other have dead relatives etc. But at least what has worked for me is this. Just look arround, see your hands, it is SO RECOMENDABLE to do exercise, this just getst you out of depression with a boost (at least for me). Remain strong, find an activity you want to do, find a plan, life is short, so why not go to the theater, why not eat my favorte food, I mean you have two hands, and a body. It is hard I know but I mean one is here, one exists right now so try new things. For isntance run, or try not eating two meals and just one a day, and you’ll see that you will enjoy that mea as if it was a gift from god. Make new friends start conversations with people at random and if it does not works move on to know more and more people, watch alot of movies, see other lives.. Before saying to your self you are alone, don’t autosuggest yourself and simply start by putting attention on something else, help in a fraternity house, do some volunteer work, just put your mind somewhere else, go to the gym, make new friends, arrange with friends to do some activity, but little by litte, don’t go all wild. You will see that you will be so bussy to even think about depression. Everyone feels like this, every human dos not have an answer to life and feels some times lost. READ ARTICLES . Read depresion articles about other people and you will see that other peoples have a more SUCKY life than yours or perhaps their problemas are much bigger than yours or so small that for you these are not problems. It is so important to recognize and know what “being calm” really means. Just relax, take a deep breath.. Read many articles, at first it may get complicated, but just take small loads.. At anyways, you might already have done many of these things, but as they say. It is best to die trying in war, than die in a single shot. If it is not life then don’t worry because you won’t even know what happened. Simply and just simply go on, keep fighting and just find something to do that you enjoy, an occupation something, make something that is helpful or profitable and you will feel great. And if you wanna do nothing then, just go in to chat rooms, and basically going to a party is not the only thing to do.. In ordre to BETTER ENJOY others, you first have to have fun by yourself, go running, listen to hard rook, watch SCARY MOVIES that can almost get a heart attack. You don’t have to be in company to be happy, read, laugh at your self, just think what difference you can make and man, you can really do it.. anyways.. see you arround and just do something, invent something, and enjoy this temporary life..

Have you asked Sue if she has too much on her own plate to listen to your problem?

If not, you are making decisions for her, that are hers to make.

Again, you are not lame for wanting someone to to listen to what bothers you [we all want that]. Give Sue a chance to do that.

Blessings good luck

I just found your comment…its been over a year since you posted, so i do not know if you are ever going to come across this one again…but you are never alone. I have no idea who you are…but just reading your comment gives me a little comfort that someone out there feels just like me. My life is not bad…and i have friends too, but you dont have to be by yourself to feel alone…i dont know who i can talk to(since im a guy, if i ever considered talkin about lonliness to any guy friends…i would probably be told to suck it up…but one can only hold in so much). To the ones who understand and feel the same…Thank you for letting me know you exist.

I know how you feel, I’ve been feeling the same way, you’re lucky cause you still have a best friend whom you can talk to when I dont have even one I can personally share it with. you can talk to her alone, ask her if she have time then let things out, if she’s not available then hit someone up on here to talk to about your feelings, someone willing, hope that would help u..if you want to talk im willing to listen..goodluck to u!

oh yeah, and your friend prolly doesn't mind listening to your problems because she cares about you. she's always going to be around, whether you want her or not, so you gotta deal with that. she's sorry your mad. she hopes you will call her on her cell phone that her wonderful father lent her for the weekend and talk to her! she doesnt want to lose you because up until about last night when the two of you fought over turning the lights off until this slightly more massive fight, she knows that u are her only real friend. i know that she loves you because i can tell that you are really a great person! that is all.

Hi that’s the same with me you have enough on your plate tell them you’ll help with as much as you can but sometimes you can’t handle it they will learn to understand

omg you have no idea how much I understand you sweetie..I moved a lot and therefore have many friends but no really good friends that I can really trust in my new school. so I get that feeling ALL THE TIME..its as if you feel lonely even though ure not really. you do have people to hang out with and stuff. but theres always something missing.

im sorry you feel this way..try and stop urself from worrying. just stop it! thats what I do sometimes because I worry a lot about many things even stuff that isnt really important. if you feel that there is another unhappy feeling coming you should give urself a few seconds and then just stop! think about other things that make you happy. I know I sound realy stupid and what I say may seem unnecessary but depression is all in your head so if you find a way to appreciate other things you do have and make them more important to you ull become happy again.

so heads up, good luck and theres a bunch of people that care about you and you know it. I mean I dont even know you and I feel like hugging you because you think the same way as I do sometimes!

I have another question. I have this friend named "Sue" who is mad at me because… um… why was it… oh yeah… because I feel like I can't tell her stuff, which I know I can't. I can't tell her stuff, not because she is a bad friend (she isn't… infact, she's probably one of the only good friend I have these days), but because she has too much on her plate right now and I don't think she needs anymore. The problem is that since "Sue" has other problems, I am left with the short end of the stick. Who do I go to? I guess I'm just being totally selfish for wanting someone to actually give a shit about me and my problems for once. Sorry. I know I'm not depressed or anything like that. Just tired. Ever since high school started, which believe me, I know is tough, I've felt like no one cares. It's not depression and I don't need a therapist, although maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea cause atleast they listen (although you kind of have to pay them to do that so I'm kind of thinking it isn't so sincere as I dunno… a friend perhaps). No thats not my problem. My problem is that for this entire year I've been alone with no one to listen. Sorry I wana.. what was it… "Drop my problems on everyone." I'm a selfish loser! And there is really no everyone since I only have one best friend… lol I really don't mind listening, but its nice for other to return the favor, or atleast ask or check in, ya know? Sorry I'm selfish. Thanks for the advice anyway. As for the why are we friends then, my unhappiness isn't because of you. We're friends becuase I love ya hon and OBVIOUSLY care bout ya since I listen to ya all the time. I'm sorry your mad, I'm not sure why you are really, but I hope you'll atleast forgive me enough to actually talk to me! Love ya! Thanks for listening… -LP

Hello, you don't sound a bit whiny and I do know how you feel. And I feel what you are saying. I felt every bit this way in high school. And even some years beyond that. I am and was a good listener. I am and was the one everyone when to with their problems.

It took me a while to see that I set up the relationships like that. I set them up so that I always listened to them. And then finally way down the road when I wanted to talk, to take some comfort–they were too busy. Yeah, it hurts.

And it took me a while to learn NOT to set up my friendships like that. That maybe they weren't friendships if the person couldn't give back. I think at those times I was being what I wanted others to be for me. In order to be the best friend ever, I gave and gave and gave. They got used to me giving and giving and giving. So that when I said, "Umm…hello, I need some help now." They couldn't hear it.

I know how alone you feel. All I can tell you is that it won't always feel this way. To some people high school is real life and real serious. But because they are immature they play high school like a game; full of me, me, me; popularity, and oneupmanship. Others know that high school is what you get through so that real life can begin. I think you are the more mature one who knows that real life begins after high school. Fifteen minutes after high school and none of that stuff matters. Really.

Until then, maybe you can practice with yourself to make friendships that are two way streets. Let the person talk to you and listen. But with a week or two, you talk to them about your problem. If they can't respond to you–maybe they are not friend material.

I think you need to tell Sue your BF, that you needed her and she wasn't there for you. Give her that chance. Hopefully, she won't want to be that selfish. And will say she's really sorry. If so, it's then up to you to talk to her more about yourself and your needs more openly and honest.

In college a teacher once said that as we get older–we get happier. I thought, "Yeah, right." But it's true. And I think it's because we not only become more wise, but more willing to just be ourselves. Hang in–in will get better.

Blessings and good luck

Well. You seem very unhappy. You need to talk about this to your friends. Tell them taht you feel like you are doing all the listening and never the talking. You seem to have a good friend on your shoulders. Your friend "sue" seems to be obsessing over her boyfriend. Have you told her that this bothers you? If not, then do. It sounds like you are being a bit selfish there though. It is a little demanding of you to want to outpour your feelings on everyone. I can understand your feelings on this subject, i sometimes feel this way when i am not talking about my boyfriend. I know taht if you told your friend that this was bothering you, she would immediately regret ever making you feel this way. Most people have very rough times in their lives, and it seems this is yours. Crying yourself to sleep every night is not away to deal healthily with your problems. If this requires a therapist, then i think you should take that opportunity. Tell "sue" and i am sure she would regret being caught up in her own problems and really want to listen. I know that if my friend was depressed, i would want her to talk to me about it. I am also sure that writing a letter and not talking to "sue" while she was on the computer was not the right thing to do. What could sue have done? she might have just assumed that you didn't want to talk about it nad felt it was better to leave you alone. Maybe she didn't know the friend in the corectional facility that well and didnt want to upset you by tryng to comfort you. high school is hard darling. Oh and good luck…Trish

when you go to high school people go through a lot of changes both socially and physically. friends pair off in little social groups, people find boyfriends and girlfriends they start to develop their social and physical skills. it is a time of growth and change, you are changing from a little person to an adult. and adults have to take on responsibility which means they have less time to spend with their friends and on their friends problems, because they are developing their own problems. you are lucky if you have one person in your whole life that you can call your friend or soulmate. usually its the first person you have love with. everybody else except for your family are just passing in the breeze. you should not take it so seriously if your friends are not paying attention because a few years down the line they won't be there anymore, you should learn to rely on yourself and be strong because you are your bestfriend.

hello my mane is lorie I really dont know how to talk to people because I my self dont have know one to talk to and alot people say thay dont have know one to talk to but they really do but with no trust. I really Iam alone have been alone all my life Its hard to belive that but true.I have been to hell and still in hell .Ive been throue all kinds of things in my life and not one thing good that I can remember. and looking for a friend I can talk to about my problems and most of all a person I can help and listen to no matter the problem .so when ever you feel you have know one to listen to you or talk to you will have me .no matter I will do the best that I can as a friend some thing Inever had and maybe now I can say I have a friend. thank you lorie

Very strange.. I was just looking something up on google and I came across this and it was completely random, and I had never heard of this site before, and this post was the first thing that I saw. I read the whole thing, and it was like you were writing exactly what has been troubleing me for the longest time now.

I know exactly how you feel. I always help my friends out, and I am always there for them. I have one really special friend ( we can just call her Jane.) Me and her have been friends forever, and she is the closest person to me in this world. I don’t think that there is even one thing that I don’t know about her. But there are so many things that she and the rest of my friends don’t know about me. I honestly feel like they only remember me when they need to talk to someone and someone more popular or smarter isn’t around. Jane’s mother is currently a recovering alcoholic, and I completely understand her getting really upset over it. I would too, but at the same time her mom was drinking my parents were going through a divorce and it was the hardest thing in the world for me. My grades slipped, and I developed an anxiety disorder that I have had for almost two years now because I seriously have no one who will really listent to me. Some of my “best friends” don’t even know this about me. I cry myself to sleep every night because so many emotions are built up inside of me and I have no one to talk to. My parents think that just because now my grades are really good that I am problem-free, but as I do better in school and more people trust me, the more unhappy I get. It’s really hard to explain, and even though my problem with my friends may seem completely different from yours, I am just basically trying to tell you that I can relate 100% because I feel the exact same way. It could be my own fault for not having someone to talk to, but it’s hard to get a word in because my friends would only really want to talk to me if they caught me crying. Which, by the way, has never ever happened.

I know how you feel. Been there plenty. Sooner or later, everyone–yep–EVERYONE in your life–will disappoint you, and you’ll experience deep lonliness. What you need to learn is how to lean on God. The Lord Jesus invites us to cast our cares upon him. I’ve learned that he’s the closest friend I’ll ever have, and he’s the only one who can give you real comfort and peace in your soul. Just tell the Lord whatever you’d want to tell your best friend, have a good heart-to-heart and a good cry, then let the peace come over you. It will. I promise. Then, when others notice the change in you and ask what has happened to make the difference, you’ll have a great gift to pass on to them. God bless and keep you.

I was afraid of just ending up responding by saying ‘I know how you feel!’ Then going into my own little particular tirade which pretty much sounds the same. But not quite… it’s like they listen, but they don’t care. I only really have one good friend but I always listen, and if I happen to talk, it’s like a less valuable emotion than hers. She doesn’t say that, but I feel that way how she responds. But anyway, I was reading a blog that was titled “What do you Require?”..and it changed my perspective…on how I should handle my relationships. I give and give but feel I get nothing in return, and so what the blog said was that you need to ask yourself what you need from your friends and family, then ask for it. You are not selfish AT ALL… sometimes if you give so much people forget that you need to take some. It’s just your giving nature. I used to feel bad talking to people about my problems so I stopped…but I am unhappy. I don’t want you to be unhappy. You have alot to offer the world! People like those who are giving, but they also need a friend who can tell them what they need. This is a transition I’m trying to make right now, so I’m right there with you, I know the vices of the situation. It’s harder than it sounds. Remember that you deserve to be heard.

well, I’m in high school now and i feel so lonely.From the outside,my life looks good,nothing wrong… but really I’m just so sad.At school,my friends all turn away,i can’t “really” talk to them because I know that they won’t understand.It feels like i can’t completely trust anyone in the world.My family,i live in quite a large family but no one notices what i go through.I know this is completely selfish but sometimes,i just really need someone that i know i can trust.Everyone else just looks so happy but i just feel so betrayed as well.I’m not depressed but recently, I just feel so abandoned from my friends and my best friend started hating me COMPLETELY for a reason i just fail to understand as in there doesn’t seem to be any reason!It was fine one day,then complete and utter loathing the next.Let me tell you,being dumped by your best friend is one of the worst feelings in the world.This is actually my first time expressing my feelings,my basic problem is that i feel a need for someone to understand,i just feel so hated and alone.. Sorry for depressing anyone reading this..

GOD I had asked similar questions..ihve read the answers to this one, I feel like the’ve answered mine…after having read all of this, I realise that it’s not me but people who are obssesed wth themselves all the time..I dont need such selfish and superficial friends…I think people like us deserve better, dont you think??..life’s too short for such selfish people!!, try and avoid being trampled upon by a bunch of so called ‘’FREINDS’’…best of luck ‘’liberalprincess’’ be rest assured that there are many people like us…hope you find this useful…it a long and beautiful life..god and live it…and leave out selfobssesed people…

EVERYONE ANSWERED THIS SO NICLEY I HAVE NUTHING TO ADD, BUT KEPP YOU HEAD UP. RISE TO THE OCCASION AND TRY TO KEEP A SMILE. DONT LET ANYONE SEE YOU DOWN. TALK TO YOUR MOTHER. SHE CAN AND PROBABLY WILL BE THE BEST FREIND YOU CAN EVER HAVE. I GO THROUGH HURT AND PAIN, BUT I THINK WE HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE PAIN TO KNOW WHAT THE GOOD IS! LETS JUST HOPE THATS TRUE :-) FEEL BETTER

I have your same situation, I have loads of friends one in paticular, but I still feel alone, maybe it iss because you are having to deal with evryone elses problems, or maybe you just need someone to listen, and laugh with, I am trying not to drag my problems into this answer, but It’s difficult on this site to see people you connect with, and not try to get them to help you, the same thing in rl for you, you need to find someone happy to be around, it will make it easier ffor them to listen.

Good luck :)

Most of the time I feel alone, but mostly because I am only one of my kind. Even though I found a lot of LP loving people on other sites, at school I feel so alone. Also hardly anybody talks to me and a lot of people like calling me names and making sure that I dont smile. So yeah I have felt alone. I still feel alone. But I’m a loser. You probably arent.

well I’ve’e often felt like! as I have many friends and one perticular friend who I helped with her boyfriend and fammily problems but when her and her boyfriend got back and she started going out with differant people more.. well me and my boyfriend split and as you can guess I was very upset but shee just acted like she didnt caree witch realy pissed me off! and I felt like I didnt have anyone who was there for me cause she was the mane friend who helped me and she had just dissapeared out of my life and the person who had my back and told everythink to had split with me soo I was bascily depressed but eventuallyme and my boyfriend got back and I talked to other friends more! so I think times like this ar just little phases everyone goes threw but dont worry x

TO ALL THE PEOPLE WHO READ THIS WHO ARE GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING::

I really do understand how it feels to be that person everyone goes to with no one to talk to in your life. It’s rough. That’s where having a true friend is a great thing to have in your life. Friends will come and go. But, a true friend will listen when you need it the most. Hope you do the same for that friend. So, I will say this to each and everyone of you. If you need someone to ever talk to, just shoot me a FunMail and no matter what it is that you need to talk about, I know it won’t replace an actual person in your life, I’ll be that person for you. I know how most people are. Me, me, me, me, me. Never you. Not everyone is like that though. But it’s good to know who your real friends are and who are just friends that will come and go in your life.

I feel the same way, sweetie. im a 14 year old girl and I have a good best friend who understands me but we both share a feelings of unhappiness. this is just a phase. I promise people care about you. if your in highschool, then im guessing your in puberty…? yeah, well thats part of the reason your sad. but once your done with puberty youll find a good guy and maybe make more friends in college. this time in your life is tough, but it will pass. how to make yourself happy NOW your asking? and you feel there is no one to turn to? well if you really dont have anyone to turn to, turn to God. it may sound lame.. but its worth it. I promise. dont hesitate to message me if you want to talk about it. <33