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Hi I met this guy out clubbing 4 weeks ago and we had been seeing and texting each other but one week after we met and we had sex and I became pregnant, I told him last sunday and he told me to have an abortion which is what we both wanted but I misscarried a few days later and had to go into hospital to get a d&c and by the wednesday he told me he didnt want to see me again and I was not to text him anymore. He told me a meant nothing to him and I was just a friend. But I found out he told my friend that this is all scary. Have I scared him away and is there any chance we could sort things out? I really like him. I’ll do anything to make it right??

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Answer #1

You could sort it out sure, it just depends on exactly how he feels about it and you, chances are he’s scared you might get pregnant again, people tend to follow the lead of what happens, aka you got pregnant once, it will happen again, thats just probably his point of view, try talking to him tell him that it could happen to anyone and in the future you just have to be more careful, always wear a condom, and birth control is a big help. Let him know how you feel about him, tell him everything you feel for him, and don’t hold back, if he still wont bother to talk to you or even look at you, chances are he’s one of those guys that just wants that one thing every girls dad warns them about, if thats the case then he’s not worth it, if he cant even listen to you it could never work out. One thing I’ve always done is tried to learn a lesson from the experience at best, but I’m also that sensitive guy you never see, the one that will actually listen and respond, every guy is different and every guy will have a different reaction, but in the end you will feel better knowing if he’s the right guy to be with or not.

Answer #2

that whole pregnant thing clearly overwhelmed the guy..esp. one who’s supposed to be a ‘fling’ so to speak. I mean you met him a month ago !! maybe in later times, you could try again if he feels the same way. but give him some time for the moment..to think. you kinda overworked his nerves lol. juss for future references..if your gonna have sex w/ people casually, you can always avoid concieving by getting on birth control. I’m sooo srry for u.r loss :[

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