Should I go for baby number 4?

I have three children: Eldest is 4, middle is 3 and the youngest is almost 2. When I was young people would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up and I would say “a Mommy” with a secure voice. But my three surviving children are only here due to their own spirit and will to survive against all the odds that faced them. During which I have had various short lived pregnancies and one termination…one lost in november last year and one this year in feb. Our marriage was significantly damaged during my carrying as I was hospitalised and my children were all sufferers of abdominal problems resutling in surgeries after birth. So…is this by unfortunate chance? Or could I…should I dare to have a normal pregnancy and a normal baby (without major health issues) and tyr for number 4??? Surely it can’t all go wrong again, can it??

Please be gentle with your repsonses as this issue is very sensitive to me as it’s very emotionally sensitive and fresh in my mind.

Thanks everyone… x x x

Answer #1

Were me, I’d pray about it and seek an answer…I wish you the best !!

Answer #2

Just make sure that having your next child will in no way have any restrictions on the future you could provide for your existing children. By that I mean, make sure you have a hell of a lot of money, love, mental stability, rooms and patience.

Answer #3

you might want to think about genetic counseling through your obstetrician, they can look at all your background info and tell you what your chances are of having another baby with these problems. best of luck!

Answer #4

as suzy has said, if you’re emotionalally stable, then go for it… then just “expect for the best, but prepare for the worst” - cause you’ll never know what will happen, pray about it, and be positive about it… and I wish you all the best and hope that if you do decide to have baby #4, he or she will be strong and healthy! =)

Answer #5

WEll if you do decide to have a number 4 ,make sure you can support them . Make sure they would have a nice live. You can have one just make sure it’s the right decision.

Answer #6

I just want to say a huge thanks to everyone regards to your answers of this deeply debatable question. I really appreciate all of your thoughts and advice and will use this to help me make the right decision for out family.

It’s amazing how such a simple intimate task can turn into a lifetime sacrifice or joy.

Thanks again everyone x x x

Answer #7

well if you want to give it another try, I would say go for it. But I don’t recommend it. If all of your kids have unfortunately had a problem thus far, the probability of the 4th baby having a problem are high. If you want a 4th baby, make sure you are emotionally stable and ready incase the baby does come out with difficulties.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer #8

Yes go for it and see as long as you feel that it is right for you.

Answer #9

don’t do it

Answer #10

if you want to giv it another try and your sure you can support another child..then I say go for it! good luck!

Answer #11

Just make sure you have enough money for the baby.

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