should I break up with him or keep him

I have a boyfriend that I love very much, but sometimes I feel he is using me im young im 19 and my boyfriends older than me I feel since im younger he tries to play tricks on me. were in a long distance relatonship and he told me he cheated on me while he was drunk. I was mad but then I was shocked because guys don’t admit that. I love him so much. Should I break up with him or just let him go. how should I express my feelings to him

Answer #1

If you are feeling used then this is a really important sign that something isn’t working out in your relationship. Also, the fact that you feel used and lied too (the tricks) means there is a big trust issue at hand. I think this in itself is enough to seriously consider breaking up with him since lying, cheating and manipulating is not a good foundation to an healthy relationship. If you do decide to stay with him I’d seriously confront these issues and talk to him about these problems. I think you should put your foot down and explain that you don’t want anymore lying, cheating or manipulating and that this is the basic conditions for you two to stay together. You deserve more then feeling used and undermined, you deserve respect and someone who makes you fell good about yourself.

Answer #2

If he has cheated on you, that is breaking the bond of trust that a relationship has. You say you are in a long distance relationship…and its really difficult to make these kind of relationships work. If he has cheated on you, he could do it again I’d break up with him if I wa you. Tell him things are not working and that your trust levels have gone down. Just do what is best for you. If you still love him and can forgive and forget… then stay with him.

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