Rude or helpful

it is hard when a parent is the one to make a negative comment. my mother did that to me all the time. I would be going out the door on a date and she would stop me and say something about my clothes or makeup, etc. I had a heart to heart with her, kept my cool and nicely told her that I knew that she didn’t realize she was hurting my feelings. when you say it that way, it gives the other person a graceful out. they can then say they were sorry and try not to repeat it. my mom stopped. your mom might not realize just how much it upsets you. try to speak with her in private and during a time when she seems “open” to a discussion. I am old now and have my own child. I know that I catch myself about to say the same things and make sure that I don’t. I think that it is because, as parents, we still want to think that our opinion matters, when we know that it doesn’t.

I would talk to your mom about it. Confront her and tell her how you feel.

Do this and ask for other peoples’ honest opinions of how you present yourself… someone who is a very close friend or something.

Try to compromise. Do thing’s that make you look beautiful but maybe toned down. like less makeup or w/e your doing. Find a middle that you and she like.