Why does everyone seem to have a problem with teenage mums?

In general, teens aren’t mature enough to take care of themselves, let alone a baby. I’ve seen teen mums who take care of their child better than an adult, but majority I know don’t seem to realize they need to grow up, quit partying and take care of their child. Money is also a huge factor, teens aren’t really able to get a stable job/income. Most the time, teens can only get part-time jobs at fast foods or department stores. Some have to work several of these jobs to support their baby. Having a child young doesn’t necessarily mean you will be a bad mum, but you will have to give up your own childhood and will have to grow up.

So its peoples ASSUMPTIONS that get passed on, it just seems to be in the press and on tv shows and allll sorts!

You see this is not true, you don’t have to give up partying, you just have to change the way you do it! I appreciate the fact you can see some younger mums are better than the adults at times but at the same time, is anyone really ready for a child? The first one you will never be ready for because you don’t know what to expect, no matter how old you are also, I think you can be immature, as long as your capeable and slightly responcible, oh core you can. Look after a baby,

I think Janice means that you’ll have to give up a lot. Partying? a stereotypical teenager parties, gets drunk a lot, has sex, etc…. teens do things without thinking of consequences. And is anyone really ready for a child? Yes, people can be prepared. They can financially provide, mature, and responsible. Most of the time, they are married where the job is both parents working together (not saying you baby’s father doesn’t provide). I don’t think you had sex with the intention of having a baby, but it goes with the stereotype of teens not thinking of consequences. Immature, you can’t be. And a child takes more than just slight responsibility. It is a huge responsibility. A lot of time, and money.

I just want to say this….. I had 2 friends (separate groups of friends) that got pregnant/ their girl pregnant. One in high school, the other early in college. Both never thought about getting pregnant when they were doing the things they did. They both never finished college or start it cause they had to work a lot. They did have to stop partying cause of the time involved with the baby. However, I did talk to both of them on separate occasions and they both don’t regret having the child cause they both love their kid. Although they do wish they could have waited until they were more mature and out of college. I think they will be great parents, no doubt. However, they just wish the timing was different.

Because, although not all, a lot of teen moms aren’t mature enough to take care of a baby mentaly and financially.

Exactly. Especially teens are not known for their well thought out decisions, which isn’t a bad thing we learn from mistakes, but with a child a lot of times you cannot afford mistakes. Along with that, it’s rather rare for teens to be financially stable to provide for the child’s well-being and healthcare. It’s hard for teens to find good jobs especially since they aren’t done their schooling yet. Unfortunately a job at McDonald’s or a department store isn’t going to be enough to bring up a child that’s why a lot of teen parents need to have two jobs. Most times when teens have children, they end up needing money from their parents.

Noyt everyone likes black people, and not everyone likes democrats….so of course some people are going to not like teen mothers for whatever reason…

they are lack in abilities necessary to make a better home thats why……….

I understand what your saying about money, I am fortunate enough to still be with my boyfriend and he provides enough money to support us and charlie and I am still in my final year of school now, but I’m not saying you personally, but my daughter, charlie is nearly 2 now and I’ve just found out I’m having another one, but if I’m doing simple mummy things with my girl like going swimming, or to the park or even just walking to the shops people automatically assume in doing a bad job! And you can be immature, I’m quite immature and I’m still doing a decent job!

Welll, there’s a close minded comment!

Right , but you wouldn’t look at an adult with a baby and think eww I don’t like her would ya?

I understand where you’re coming from, it isn’t right that people just automatically assume you’re doing a bad job. You can’t let those things bother you though, unfortunately, you will get it until your child grows up. You will, however need to grow up, you will be faced with problems and decisions where you will need to make mature decisions. I do believe every single parent is immature in some way lol, my dad, in his 50’s still play with nerf guns and model cars and tracks, but when it comes down to decisions, child care, health care, taxes, money spending etc you will need to make mature decisions.

Because, like it or not, as a teenager, you still have an immature brain. Your decision making skills are not as developed as an adult, you cannot reason as well as an adult, and adolescents across all species are more likely to engage in risky behaviour. All in all, not good for keeping YOURSELF save, let alone caring for a child. Not to mention that it makes it a lot harder for you to enjoy your childhood while you still have it, get qualified and then get good jobs. And teenage mothers have a much higher risk of complications with pregnancy. Medically speaking, the ideal time to have a child is in your twenties. I disagree with your comment about younger mothers having a better relationship with their children - I dont see what evidence there is of that.

Because some parents are noisy and evades the kids privacy and life.

I know alll about the having to grow up, charlie is nearly 2 now so I think I’ve got the hang of things now I had her when I was 14 and moved in with my boyfriend about 10 months ago now, alough this is not ideal considering my age, I’m happy, I manage to bring up my dughter, put a proper dinner on the table for my family, maintain my house and still go to school with no help off my mum and I appreciate that not everyone is like that but surely people can’t be so narrow minded as to think we are all the same? Its fraustrating,

I think we do, because we are still young we have more energy and drive to go and muck about for a whie therefore spend more time playing with them anso, when my daughter is 16 and wanting to do things I will only nb 30 and more likely to reason with her

I think we do, because we are still young we have more energy and drive to go and muck about for a whie therefore spend more time playing with them anso, when my daughter is 16 and wanting to do things I will only nb 30 and more likely to reason with her

That’s not to do with tthe question

Again, I disagree. I know older mothers with amazing energy, and I know younger mothers who are unmotivated and lazy. How much energy someone has to spend on their children is based on much more than age. And just being young doesnt mean your children will listen to you more. When I was 16, my mother was 50, and we have always had a fantastic relationship. Most of my friends are the same. Sure, younger mothers may also have wonderful relationships with their children, but I dont see how they are at any particular advantage purely based on their age, and combined with the whole immature brain thing, medical issues and the fact that you will be losing your childhood and never getting it back, as I mentioned in my reply, i conclude becoming a parent as a teenager is not ideal.