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Okay Im 15 years old, about to be 16 in october and I want to live with my mom, im dont want to hurt my step mom and dad but I cant keep letting what I want eat my inside it has for tooo long. I dont know what to say to them beside I miss my mom and I want to try it out there bc I never really got a chance bc I got taken from my mom whe I was like 4 or 5. and I dont know what else to tell them. We would have to go to court bc my mom pays child support and my dad has full custody of me. I really dont wan to go to court, bc I dont know whats going to happen what kinds of questions hes going to ask me or anything. somebody help me…please

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Answer #1

The advice from Jeffthemonk is very good. Even when things do work out, living together isn’t easy 24/7, especially at your age where your mom won’t be able to help seeing you her missing baby and you yourself as a grown-up.

You don’t say how much contact with your mom you’ve had nor why she didn’t get custody in the first place. Whatever the reasons, expect to have to get to know each other all over again and it won’t be all plain-sailing.

Talk to your dad at an opportunity where everyone is feeling relaxed and explain that you’d like to get to know your mom and that whatever the reason they didn’t work out, that’s between them, not you and that you don’t want to be drawn into past battles. Ask both parents if you could spend the summer with her to try things out. If it’s an informal arrangement I don’t see why the court has to get involved.

I don’t know what states are involved, so I don’t know what age you get to choose without getting the courts involved. The good news either way is that you’ll soon be 18 and then it’ll all be up to you. Just remember, the past is a foreign country, you cannot go back, only forward.

Answer #2

you should ask to go down there for a vacation for a week + . then once you know you like it there talk to your mom about living with her. if she thinks its ok you gotta just tell your dad and step mom and theyll understand. you can still see them sometimes too. let them know that you really think this will be best for u.

Answer #3

If youve never lived with her before then suddenly living with her full time may come as a shock for both her and you, perhaps just stay over hers for some of the summer or during half terms or something to get used to it. Explain you want to get to know you mum more and expand on you relationship as you never had the chance before. You could always get joint custody as an alternative that way your dad and step mum might be more willing to the idea but in the end you could just stay at your mums more often than at your dads. I presume the court would ask questions like why have you change your mind about whom to live with? Why do you feel you would be better off living with your mother, stuff like that :P Hope it works out for ya x

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