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Should he be given a second chance?

if your dad has melosted you and you sister and hits you for no reason and calls you out side of your name then you finally get defax involed and he has to get out of the house and your mom throws it up in your face that he had to leave.and defax says it up to you to give him a 2nd chance what would you give him a second chance?

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Answer #1

Good for standing up for yourself and your sister. The second chance should only happen after EVERYONE under goes years of therapy - your Dad - to understand why it was totally wrong (and possibly after jail time.), your Mom - to understand why she would accept that behavior, you and your sister - to recover from the trauma and the victimization.

The following is supposition based on known family dynamics, but … Understand that your Mom may have been a victim herself when she was very young, and that may be why she doesn’t see your father’s actions as horrible. She may have been raised to view them as normal, or at least acceptable. Also, please understand that the fear and terror that you and your sister have gone through puts BOTH of you in danger of ALSO magically being attracted to similar types of men (just as your Mother may have been). The bad boy types. You may need to get counselling. If any is offered, you will be well served to accept it. Also there are a number of agencies that try to help people in your situation cope with the trauma.- RAINN - Rape, Abuse, and Incest Nat’l Network 1-800-656-HOPE www.rainn.org Child Abuse 1-800-4ACHILD Your school guidance counselor Your pediatrician or doctor

I wish you hope and health Good Luck!!

Answer #2

No do not give him a second chance. A father is suppose to protect their child not abuse them. This man is not a father he is a monster. As for your Mom she was wrong to do what she did it is her job to protect her child too. Be safe and God Bless you and your sister.

Answer #3

Not in a million years - he’s not going to just change. This man needs to be watched for the rest of his life, he’s a molester and shouldn’t be trusted around anyone alone.

Answer #4

no, do not give him a second chance. I would talk to defax about your mother too if she is mad at you for getting authoritys involved.

Answer #5

you did exactly what you should have done. and if your mom cant see that, then obviously all of us on fun advice sure do!! =) haha

I’m pretty proud of you for that, I know that took a lot of guts! no second chances should be given untill you can honestly say “oh, well, my own father molested me AND my sister and abuses us, but hey! I forgive him!” until you can say that for yourself, not for your mom or anyone else, no second chances are to be given. at all. trust your heart, and you gut. you did good =)

Answer #6

No, if he molested you then he’s a child molestor. He will not change. You did what was best for you and your sister, remember that. Your mother is wrong for saying that, she should be doing everything in her power to protect you, not making you feel guilty. As a mother I can tell you that if anybody (including my husband) ever hurt one of my kids I would want to kill them.

Always remember that you did what you had to to protect yourself and your sister. You did good babe!!!

Answer #7

NO!!

im really sorry thts horrid bub!

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