Parents splitting up.

I agree with ichibanarky. I might add that you need to support your mom too. Just because your dad is visably tking it hard, doesn’t mean that your mom isn’t taking it hard too. And also let them know that you are taking it hard as well. don’t bottle it up!

Whatever point in time he would have found out, it still would have hurt a lot… You telling him earlier would not have changed anything, so dont feel bad about that. It wasnt right for your mother to burden you like that though… Just be there for him. He will be ok. You just need to remind him (and yourself) that.

It wasn’t your place to tell him anything - that was something your mother and father needed to sort out on their own - don’t feel guilty about it.

Just be there to support your father…he’ll need you more than anything over the next stage of healing.

I’m also going through this. Except, I’m in your earlier position, my mom hasn’t dropped it on him yet. I have to carry around the knowledge of a world I’ve grown up in finally falling apart around me. If you really love your father the best you can do is keep him in your heart and still be his “little girl”. Be there for him, but you need to take care of yourself. If things get too hard, go see a counselor. Choose one friend, tell them how you feel. Make sure this is a trustable friend and if you ever need anything you can just talk to them. Your stability should always be the first thing on your mind. I hope this has helped. I’m sorry that you have to go through this. The thing is: you can’t pick your parents and you can’t control their actions. Just take care of yourself. :)