can a parent say that their child can move out?

In general, yes. They can. Since your profile age is not correct and I don’t know your age, however, I can’t really help you much in this situation. Can you please put in your real age and give us some more details? This would help us to help you immensely.

I’m 17 years old, I live in Oregon, with my girlfriend. My girlfriend lives with her mom, and says that I can stay there. My mom lives in California, and said that I could move here to finish my schooling.

Is it possible for someone to try and make that into an abandonment case, if I ask to be put officially on my girlfriend’s mom’s lease?

I highly doubt that it is even possible since you are stil considered a minor! I dont know what the legal age there is but its usually 18-21 in different states. As for her landlord…i am not sure what his rules regarding this issue might be as well. Now for your mom, if she is willing to sign some sort of affidavit of support stating she gives ur gf’s mother full responsibility over you then you would have to get some sort of legal documents on it. see if god forbid smth happened to you & your mom is all the way in cali, they have got to call someone who is ur legal guardian. (in this case it would have to be your gf’s mother since your mother is in cali!) not sure how that would work, might have to consult with a lawyer or smth! that is my best advice to you at this present time on this matter.

good luck, hope all works out for ya.

Your 17 years old, and if your parents allow you to live somewhere else law enforcement isnt going to do anything about it. Your only one year from being able to leave home legally, and if your parents dont care, the police wont even bother trying to do anything, its a waste of their time.

definitely. it depends how much they really care. whether they show it or not they probably really care about you and dont want to lose you. the just want you to realise that living with them is the right thing

Yes. Kids get sent to relatives homes all the time. I dont see why this would be different.