How can I help my parents?

jigolette?ok?and I think you needa get your mom out that house

Your sister is a person too. Why not ask her?

im a juggalo, and even I say that aht lette needs to be sat str8,the parents need to punisher her and show here they are the boss,and if she dont str8n up, send her to a group home or military school, I know it sounds harsh, but it will work

a juggalo (femaile juggalette) means someone who does drugs…your sister is flipping out and doing god knows what. they eat a lot so it’s certainly not coke or uppers like meth. she probably drinks and smokes pot…maybe pills. yeah group home and rehab…she needs to be there she is way out of line. you can get her legally drug tested, you parents, that is. when she screams or acts up, go in another room and call the cops. don’t tell her though..when they come tell them to drug test her. if she comes up positive you can send her to a group home and rehab. her problem is that noone ever cared, so she’s doing whatever the hell she wants because no one can stop her…well…get some one to…ehm, cops. she needs therapy too…did you ever see the movie “thirteen”?? you should reallly watch that

Seems to me the situation is this:

Mom is having her own problems and just getting by.

13 yo sister testing limits but mom too weak to enforce them.

13 yo sister who thinks she is too cool/special/misunderstood to be considerate of anyone else.

8 yo brother who is getting abused by older sister.

Help mom be stronger. It is true that you aren’t the parent but everyone should be expected to be treated with some dignity. Don’t put up with your younger sister’s crap. She has the attitude that she doesn’t take crap from anyone. Be the same way. If she likes to listen to loud music that everyone else hates get her a MP3 player. If she refuses to use it she is just playing her music to torture everyone else. You are 20 years old, if your little sister is yelling at you just leave. Life is too short to put up with people this obnoxious.

Juvenile Hall might do your sister some good. If she thinks her life is so bad now it might recalibrate her. This “I’m such a tortured misunderstood soul, pity me” crap won’t fly there. Every time your sister is out without permission and you don’t know where she is call the police. She might be just hanging out with friends or she might be getting beaten to death in an alley somewhere.

Were I you my main concern would be your 8 yo little brother. He is caught in the cross-fire. Make sure you are there for him to talk or hang out with. Don’t let your sister beat him down.

Oh wow. My brother is the same way! Ok here is what I did. As a sister, I took all of his stuff (small but important things) that he left lying around the house, and threw them at my friend’s house for a week. He freaked out when he thought he lost it, but finally cleaned up the house a little, and then I finally returned his stuff. He is still a mess, but now he mostly cleans up most of his messes and doesn’t leave things lying around. I can never get him to truly listen to me, but I got him to respect me. He never yells back anymore because I yell just as loud, if not louder. I also show him that im not afraid of him. For the hickies and the JPO problem, tell her where she will be in a couple of years if she doesn’t clean up her act. She needs to start thinking about the future. I know this sounds mean..but you need to do something! Oh, my friend says replace her inappropriate music with barney cds or something that the 8 year old would enjoy. (haha) Take all of her cds and threaten to chunk them if she doesn’t clean up her act.

Good Luck! :)

This maybe be from the lack of parenting, which can be very understandable being in your situation. This lack of authority, discipline, and/or attention has left her to come up by herself. Though this may seem like the main problem, the root cause is really the whole families. I guess I’m trying to say “every action has a reaction” and that whatever problem you may have needs to be resolved with the whole families. You need to find some sort of counseling for your family and try to “rebuild” rather than to “reclaim” what you all have, which is each other.

I would talk to your parents about how you don’t like how your sister is treating you and her surroundings. Just say what you told us, if they don’t know already and hopefully they will believe you. If they already know and don’t do anything, I would send her to a councellor.

Hopefully everything goes good! I wish you the best!

My heart goes out to you and your family….it appears you’re dealing with a first-class Bully (someone who has a problem with personal self-esteem)…..I hope you can get more help here.

Good Luck and God Bless !!