My son becoming clingy

haha you dont waffle =] . When he wakes up for a feed during the night I give him his bottle then he often falls back to sleep on his bottle then I wind him then just lay him back down. I do cuddle him a lot throughout the day and he lays next to me when im watching telly and stuff. aww thats soo cute about the six in the bed haha =]

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IM A 14 YEAR OLD MOM MY SON IS ONLY 6 MOUNTHS HES THE BEST THING THATS EVER HAPPENED TO ME SO PLEASE don’t JUDE ME ME AND HIS FATHER HAVE BEEN TOGETHER SINCE WE WERE IN THE 4TH GRADE AND THEN I GOT PREGNET AND HAD A SON I AM ENGAGED AND AFTER HIGH SCHOOL AND COLLAGE WILL BE GETTING MARRIED TO THIS MAN BUT I THINK THAT WHAT U SUGESTED IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO

christ I waffle! :O(

you shouldn’t have the baby monitor right next to him that could cause sudden infant death syndrome you should have it across the room the further away as you can.

if he’s used to you being with him, I would ‘wean’ him off you as such. you know, still lay with him, just gradually make a little more distance…not in one night of course lol, but over the course of a week or two, this is the, dare I say, humane way to do it…just takes longer but is a lot quieter than control crying method

a lot of people will say to use ‘controlled crying’ you know, let them cry for a bit, then go back and calm them down. this is a great method for toddlers, but your’s is so ickle still. I wouldn’t be in a such a rush to break that attachment, personally, a 1-year old wanting a cuddle isn’t anything wrong, honestly! as long as he’s not spoilt in everyday life etc then it won’t do him any harm.

but yes, you can always get them used to not relying on other people too soon. my first one I breastfed will he was 9 months old, so he was definately in bed with me lol! however, you need to look at the rest of the pattern.

when he wakes during the night from a sleep, does he still rely on you to get him back off to sleep? or does he just feed and go back to sleep on his own? if his does, it means he is capable of sleeping without you, he has just got into the routine of you getting him to sleep first thing in the evening (you know, when you’re more awake lol!)

this post hasn’t been much help really…anyway, if you want to start him sleeping on his own, it’s still no promise that when he learns to walk, he won’t come in there with you (I often wake up and theres six in my bed - I have two cats too lol!) but do what you feel is right, don’t assume your baby is going to be like others…you can still gve him that bed time cuddle and teach him that night times are for alone time. the other disadvantage, of course, to you getting him to sleep all the time, is soon he won’t want anyone else, if he’s not like that already…

and you his mum, he will be clingy for you- it doesn’t last long and he will grow out of it…

regardless, whatever you decide you HAVE to stick to it! don’t start off by allowing him to cry, find it too hard and give in because’ then you really will have problems! if you are going to go in for the controlled crying method, then you need to make sure you stick with it, even after he’s been crying for an hour, just go back in after 1 minute, 2 miniutes after that, then 3 minutes after that, so on and so forth - but you have to make sure you literally JUST go into reassure him, and leave. keep the lights low, voice monotone and low and just keep telling him gently it’s bed time. don’t leave the gap more than 7 minutes, just do every 7 minutes after that. he will eventually give in to sleep.

it’s really hard to hear them crtying, but it won’t do him any harm, and since he’s so young he should adjust quite quickly…please remember tough it may take time, don’t get too distressed AND DO NOT GIVE UP other wise he will figure out, very quickly, that if he carrys on crying, he will get what he want (enter all demon children in supermarkets!)

no it’s not too young, but I get broody lol, so sometimes I’m like ‘oh baby’ (but then they grow into the things that fight all the time in my front room) and I think - NOOO!

lol! you’ll be fine, trust yourself! your his mum you know what he’s like better than anyone - but whatever you do, do it because you want to, not because you think you should. you know whats good for him and whats not…