My Parents won't accept my boyfriend

Hi Jason, Well the night of the fight was my boyfriend (Brendan) 21st. It was around midnight that I had asked the music to be turned down a bit because we have elderly people living next door. I was being the good neighbour. Anyways his brothers wouldn’t let me turn the music down ever though the party was at my house. A couple of minutes later Matt (one brother) had his car underneath the house and had turned it on with the loud sub whoofers going - so the music was shaking the house. I ran downstairs and told them turn the music off. Then Mum came down and told them to turn the music off. I have been told that Mum had taken Matt’s crutches (he had a knee reconstruction) to stop him from going anywhere, but Mum tells me that she just held his hands. Both brothers were going off at Mum. I was upstairs when all of this was happening. After it all happened, Mum and Brendan had sat down and tried to talk things through, everyone had a bit of alcohol in their system which doesn’t help. When Mum is angry the “F’s” start flying she has a bit of a temper whereas Brendan like to just talk it through. Thats what happened on that night.

A couple of days later Mum had requested apologies from the boys. They weren’t apologising. Last week Mum had asked me around their place for dinner and I had asked her if Brendan was welcome and she said no. So I told her that I wasn’t going around. Then the next night my brother Wade phoned to ask me around for dinner for his birthday - so I asked him if Brendan was welcome. He too said no. I told him I wasn’t going around there if Brendan wasn’t welcome. We are a couple, we have been for 3 years. Either we go together or I don’t go at all. Apparently Mum and Dad think that Brendan is controlling me - not letting me go around and see them. The thing is it was my decision. I want to go around and talk to them but Brendan won’t come with me. What do you think I should do. Alyssa