My mom and birth control issues

I agree with darthornx. call your local health department. they may have a privacy act that prevents them from contacting your mom or dad. but always, always use a condom as birth control does not protect you from an STD, and a many people can carry an STD for years with out even knowing. if I were you, I would also take the time to educate myself about the specific STD’s and their signs and symptoms. some, such as herpes, has a super high percentage of people walking around with the virus! the statistical info is 1 out of every 5 adults has genital herpes! and in some cases it is possible to spread it even if using a condom! so educate yourself so that if you ever do come in contact with someone with an STD, and you begin to show symptoms you can be treated right away…which, with certain STD’s, can be the key to recovery and/ or prevention of additional health problems. Be smart, Be safe, Be responsible!

thanks guys. I guess I’ll just have a talk with her, even though its not going to be easy. I don’t think I’m going to tell her that I’ve already had sex though. And yes, we will still be using a condom, and I am educated about STDs.

jules22871, thank you so much. I think that you are probably right and that my mom just doesn’t want to come to reality.

And just to update everyone, I went to the doctors today and I got a referral to go see the gynecologist. I also had to get all sorts of shots which weren’t very much fun. I got four, one of them included the HPV shot, which hurts like hell my arm is so sore right now. :-(

ok well first off, the birth control thing…go to an open clinic you dont need your mom depending on the clinic so thats not bad, but if you go on birth control, still use a condom more protection the better. and the reason she is prob. avoiding getting you it its because she prob. thinks of you as her little girl still. if you sit her down and talk to her then she might actually understand your not jsut her little girl your turning into a mature women who wants to be SAFE

thanks spaceyjc ,couldn’t have said it better myself

explain to her that this is what you want …that your old enough to do this and that you will and are having sex…then ask her why it is she wont help you…tell her you could do this without her but youd rather she be a part of your life.remind her that delaying the birth controll wont delay the action…and that youd rather be safe than sorry…wouldnt she? good luck -v-

This has to be one of the most well written and well thought out questions I have ever seen on here. I would be proud to call you my daughter.

Speaking as a mother of a girl close to your age, no, we don’t want to face the fact that our little girls are growing up. It really does make us sad. But on your side of the coin I commend you for thinking with your head and not your hormones. You are making a very wise decision and she should be proud of that. When my daughter came to me and made the same request I made her appointment and went with her. I cried myself to sleep that nite but I knew it was the right thing to do.

Your mom sounds like she is having a hard time adjusting to the fact that her baby is growing up. Please don’t fault her for that. It is a very hard stage for us mothers. Go ahead and go to the clinic. You have been open with her and you are not hiding things from her. You are protecting yourself and your boyfriend.