My lies caught up with me

It’s hard to make someone trust you when you are lying to them. The question is how can she trust you if you keep lying? Your girlfriend has every right to feel that she has been somewhat betrayed by your actions. As you have found out for yourself, lying even with the best of intentions can break or damage the trust that someone has given to you. I’m not saying that you have to tell her everything about your past because we all have the right to our little secrets and sometimes too much information, especialy about something that we ourselves don’t understand, can cause more pain then needed. The point is, she trusts and loves you therefore needs to be reassured that you trust and love her back which means you will have to learn to open up to her and explain why you’ve kept certain things secret. Afterall, she has the right to know what made you the man she loves and telling her about yourself will help her to understand you. It is never too late to be honest. I suggest sincerely talking to her and explaining to her why you lied about your ex-grilfriend. I also suggest you learn to open up to her and explain that you’ve had a grizzly past that isn’t easy for you to share. You should especialy tell her the truth about things that she might eventualy find out about (i.e.: stalking ex-girlfriends!) that way she doesn’t feel betrayed or unconfortably put on the spot by something she never knew about you. Building a trusting relationship takes a lot of work and time. Take it one step at a time. Think about things throroughly before discussing them, learn to choose your words and always explain your love to her. One can not erase one’s past but with time we learn to see it in a different perspective as well as understand and accept it. Use the past to build a better future and remember it’s normal to be scared of loosing those we love but giving into that fear will most definitly push them away. Learn to trust her too.